Is it normal for men to be propositioned by swingers, and what makes a man an attractive candidate to swinger couples? (lemmy.autism.place)

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I have been propositioned by swingers quite a bit. It's to the point that if a couple is nice to me, I start getting suspicious. This has happened with acquaintances, long-time friends, people I've met at a party, co-workers, and even strangers at the beach. Three times that I can remember off the top of my head, they propositioned me and my girlfriend at the time (separate girls many years apart). Is this a normal thing? What about me could make me attractive to swinger couples?

I'm a cis-gendered straight male. As far as physical attractiveness, I would say I'm slightly above average based on what women have told me and how they treat me.

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[-] FunnyUsername@lemmy.world 27 points 3 months ago

It's 2024, people are more open minded to things that aren't cis monogamous relationships, and you may just be seeing the results of that as a "slightly" above average attractive man.

P.s. you might be in the sweet spot of attractive. Better looking than most, but still approachable. It takes balls to ask a George Clooney type for a 4 way.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 7 points 3 months ago

It’s 2024, people are more open minded to things that aren’t cis monogamous relationships,

This has been going on since like 2006.

you might be in the sweet spot of attractive. Better looking than most, but still approachable.

I think this might be it. I've had friends that meet several women every time they go out, so I know they're seen as attractive. I have never received the type of attention they have, but I have had ex partners, friends, and acquaintances give me respectful compliments.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

Pssshhhhh.....George Clooney......the smug bastard.

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