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Hi everyone,

I want to write more and hopefully get better, but I got really turned off from writing coms by what I heard and saw on Discord and . I am looking for a group where I don't receive unnecessarily caustic/bitter/passive-aggressive criticism for mistakes, especially since english is not my first language and I am probably not the most innovative/daring writer around (I just wanna write fantasy). If you need an example of stuff I take issue with, look at the r/writingcirclejerk mega and reccs for what turns me off.

I get that you have to show your stuff to other people eventually and get criticism for your mistakes, but I would prefer a space that is not so emotionally frustrating, lowkey to highkey transphobic/ableist etc etc. I get screamed at and have to deal with condescending assholes enough on the job/politics. I don't want that in something that is supposed to be FUN.

Do you have any recommendations for online groups or places that are relaxed, ND- and trans-friendly? They should still offer criticism and not white lie about things. Becoming "Better" means avoiding clear, objective mistakes, better structure, producing enjoyable, if not super groundbreaking works of fictions in the english language.

I don't want any "the world is hard, you have to be hard on yourself, you should suck it up" shit. There has to be a less gnarly way.

Thank you so much (insert unobtrusive, yet friendly heart emoji here)

to be fair, they also talked about other musicals i didnt care about, but I wasn't feeling it, lmao. i would have been happy with literally any other topic, but i fall asleep during this shit, cant help it

I had like an interaction where I had some decent clues that a person only introduces their pronouns after they clocked me, e.g. other people didn't do pronoun intro before, the way the "ally in question" did it felt pretty artificial (I am willing to write that off on being paranoid).

The message is "I know you are trans, you are not passing, but I am graciously allowing you to exist in this group setting". Same goes for only doing pronoun checks in a group setting when you clock a trans person. I find it worse than assuming wrong pronouns and switching after being gently corrected. Maybe because I have higher standards of would-be allies than the average person. After all, allies are supposed to have my back, not just not having a moment when I pass by. On the other hand, I have it easy for being okay with being a semi-binary trans woman, so obv enby struggles are another thing, but clocking still stings like a bitch.

Pronoun checks should be normalized to a point cis people do it intuitively, but idk if we will ever get there. If you wanna chime in, when and how did you call that behaviour out or point it out, if you saw it? Did your response work?

If your ass is not making it to the session on time at 2 pm like we agreed on multiple times in a row, I will not trust you to be on time for an event.

If you are making absurd demands of the DM and try to bully them to include your overpowered item (including homebrewing it for you and then you throw a fit when you don't like the results), I will not trust you with real power. etc etc

EDIT: I am not looking for DMing advice here, I already do sessions 0, read articles and have dmed and played a lot. I am mostly noting how small shit can tell you if you can rely on/trust somebody for more serious stuff and that TTGs have a lot of small shit coming together at once.