tilhton

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[–] tilhton@hexbear.net 1 points 1 day ago

I found Facebook groups for different cities to be a very useful resource in the past when trying to find a room, or seeking mutual aid. I would love to be able to find a similar thing in the fediverse, where I could find a type of 'queer exchange' group for a city to find trans or lgbtqia housemates and feel safe/vetted instead of just going into the wild west of craigslist.

 

Are there any fediverse sites / mastadon instances for specific cities? I'm trying to find a non facebook version of facebook groups that have mutual aid / marketplaces / rental listings etc for specific cities, could anyone recommend some good resources for this type of thing?

[–] tilhton@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago
[–] tilhton@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago

Thank you for your reply! When it comes to HRT, I plan on buying over tor or similar...I'm pretty set on not getting any via insurance because I want to avoid having any records kept...this administration would likely use that against me at some point, plus I'm an immigrant, so it just seems prudent to avoid a paper trail as much as possible for this stuff. I need to get a job and earn some money, but I plan on doing all the research and buy what I need when I can - including referring back to some of what you have said here, so thank you.

My biggest issue is making some in person friends....I'd really love to get some help with clothes, makeup, a few other things and have someone I could attend support meetings with. I'm completely lost how to find that in real life, though. Are there some meetups for pre-transition transwomen? Or any other kinds of meetups I might not stick out like a sore thumb and could maybe make some new friends? When I can I plan to move to a new city and maybe try committing full time if I can find somewhere I feel safe.

Are there any communities in the fediverse with classifieds for housing and such similar to what Facebook has?

 

Hiya all!

I'm a 40 year old male currently in a mens shelter. I've known I was trans since I was about 12 or so, but until now have always had various excuses or reasons why I couldn't transition. Well, a bunch of stuff happened, and I have kind of a clean slate at the moment, no friends or family anywhere near me, no one that knows me, currently in a new city with the freedom to go to any other in a few months.

I plan on starting HRT when I can, if nothing else to see how I feel, but I'd like to start living as a woman, at least partly at least to get comfortable with it. The idea of just donning female clothing and trying to show up to a trans meeting is terrifying to me, and I don't think I can do it. I actually tried once going to the 'stories' support group meeting in NYC once presenting as male (because I thought it would be OK), but everyone else was presenting as female - I was so out of place and I'm pretty sure I made a lot of other people uncomfortable.

How can I make some friends and meet new people who might be willing to help me a bit with clothes, makeup, and just the confidence to eventually enter the outside world presenting as female? I don't feel safe, I don't feel confident, and the dysphoria is starting to be overbearing. I'm currently homeless and everything is going well for me to resolve that, likely by April or May, but I'd like to try and make some progress before then.

I'm in Seattle currently and would really appreciate any tips or resources, thank you!

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