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I have compassion for them. I don't even blame them. I don't know how to fix what's broken, but I know that blaming and ridiculing them doesn't work. If it did, then the situation would have improved by now.

Many rationals. Much realness.

I had a jar crack, because I don't know what I'm doing. I infer it's best to cool the soup completely first in the fridge, then allow it to freeze.

And now all the people who can't resist correcting me will chime in. Go for it!

Silencing your inner critic is not a thing you can finally do once and for all. If it were, there wouldn't be entire families of therapy approaches aimed at doing this.

Some things sometimes help some people. Ethan Kross has summarized modern findings in Chatter.

I like ideas from Internal Family Systems therapy (the voice in your head is trying to protect you, so show it gratitude while you remind yourself you're safe) and basic mindfulness (the thought is merely a pattern of the mind and you don't need to give attention to it, let alone believe it).

But, you know, that's just, like, my opinion, man.

Peace.

What damage? Where? Citation needed.

It has its moments, but it also led to significant terror every year, wondering whether this would be the last year people would hire me.

I started accidentally. I stockpiled cash from my IBM job, then I wrote some things about a topic that was becoming popular. Then people noticed me. Since I didn't have to settle for another crappy job, I could take a chance on doing a few gigs that paid good money.

Two years later, somebody identified me as The Person to write The Next Book on that topic. And then a few influential people amplified me.

And then a few more.

That was the luck I needed.

My first Adult Job (not a teenager job) lasted 4 years and ended in 2001. After that I became a freelancer. Since then, the longest gig I've had is 11 weeks or 1-2 weeks every 4-6 weeks for about 4 years. Otherwise, I have worked with clients 2 hours to 5 days at a time.

I got away with that for 25 years and now I'm struggling to figure out what happens next.

Make sure? Impossible.

All jobs are an experiment and a guess. Interviewers are often on their best behavior, just like candidates are. There is no way to know. Hope for the best and be ready to leave, to the best of your ability.

I'm really very sorry that the situation isn't better for you. I believe I'm facing similar issues.

Good luck. Peace.

Given the stereotypical difficulty of "product folks" and programmers agreeing on and building shared understanding of what to build, this joke seems clear and straightforward. It works because of course, the customer and the programmer failed to agree on something simple.

Kanske är det bara att AI vill para ihop fingrar och rövhål? Romantiskt, eller?

Nope.

I really love this reply and especially how it promotes genuine decency rather than coerced decency. I know I'm not exactly adding to the discussion, but I really wanted to recognize how warm this reply felt to me with something more than a mere upvote.