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Thank you for this clear eyed response ๐ Unfortunately, we are at a stage where breaking up will be very costly in several ways, but that would not be my choice. That doesn't make what you said any less true. Navigating it will be the most challenging part of all. As I mentioned in another reply, it would probably be the most selfless for me to be honest and let their response be what it will be: out of my control.
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In their defense, they don't know that's the situation. I second guessed myself and settled on genderqueer, thinking that could be enough. They would do the same as you described. Thank you for the perspective ๐
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You're obviously right. I have always had trouble setting boundaries and standing up for myself, and this asks so much of me that I start to doubt whether it's really worth it. Putting it so plainly as you have is helpful. I'm very much wrapped up in their response and my feeling responsible for it, but how they respond is outside of my control.
If anything, it is probably the most selfish for me to hold them in a relationship where they will never really have full access to me.
It's been a while since I've posted here. Not necessarily looking for encouragement or responses, just needing to feel heard.
dysphoria, mental health, relationships
I'm closeted and in a relationship that I'm happy in besides my gender identity. I tried to work through that last year, but I was given an ultimatum: transition and divorce or stay together. I thought I could push these feelings down. For a while, I could.
But lately everything feels out of control. Especially painful is my extremely transphobic in-laws saying I would have made a cute girl. That comment on its own has been tearing me apart the past week, along with seasonal depression that already brings out the worst in me. I was feeling really present a few months ago, like maybe things were turning around and I was not trans after all.
I've had a lot of time to think about what coming out would look like. The only thing I can't handle is what feels like betraying my significant other. At the height of it, they said they would probably stay single forever, and I know it would ruin them financially and emotionally.
The quiet moments I have with you all and the brief glimpses of gender affirmation when creating a character are holding me together. Hope you all have a good week ๐
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This post made my day. I'm so happy you were able to get it fixed 
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Bump. Tried to get gift cards through the two non-crypto links and cards declined :/ wish it was as seamless as sending money directly. Will try again in a bit
Honestly disgusted by that thread and the wider chilling effect this already seems to have. I understand people want to feel like they're doing the most good possible, but that doesn't give anyone the right to dictate how aid gets spent. These are systemic problems that cannot be fixed by wiring someone cash.
Dropped my soy curls in the sink