I think with blahaj it's a matter of bad behavior from mods being much more of a institutional issue that cannot be worked around. The leaking of messages by the 196 mod and the inaction of their admins to remove the bad actor, at least I would think, is a fundamental issue that is immediately disqualifying from admin perspective. The fact we have not really heard from sjw mods, at least I haven't seen it, in public threads gives them at least an off ramp to clamp down on bigotry and bad actors.
Just to clarify I still don't think it's worth federation from what I've seen and am not defending them. But if we see a ban wave on sjw of bigots and trolls I can see the trial period of federation lasting a bit longer. Idk internet forum communities are weird to moderate.
Edit forgot a word
Correct me if I'm reading your comment wrong.
I don't want to come off as catty or standoffish but blocking the meme comms on other instances made the experience way better. The absolute Facebook boomer tier slop on some them was so bad.