RQG

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[–] RQG@lemmy.world 5 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Where I work people just call if you show as available. Imo this should warrant extra hazard pay.

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago

I got out of severe depression by trying and keeping at it to do these things I didn't even believe could help me anymore. Surprise, they did. Yes it took long and was hard. But it is possible to do even a little bit.

The part telling me I can't do it and saying I shouldn't even try cus I won't do it anyways, that is part of the depression too. It is self sustaining.

In my mind the trick that worked was: if everything is shit no matter what, if I hate every second anyways no matter what I do, if nothing will change how miserable I am, then taking a short walk won't change anything for the worse either, not to any significant degree anyways.

That way bit by bit my absolute apathy tricked itself into doing things because it didn't matter either way. And slowly shit got tiny bits better.

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I wanted to agree but then there are awesome classy people like Picard maneuver which have saved my toilet breaks at work by doing exactly this with absolute quality memery. So idk.

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

I didn't like the survey to begin with as it assumed you run and play the same in each of your games. The results suffer from this I think.

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] RQG@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

Day to day life has become spookier than I ever asked it to be. So I'm good ty.

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thank you. I began to wonder if i missed something obvious.

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

I don't really see how the meme expresses that.

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

At that point why even interact with anyone on the internet.

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Nah at manipulative tears turning into anger you leave. If you married such a person you messed up.

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 29 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

OS tribalism again 🙄

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 15 points 3 weeks ago

While filling out this survey I noticed this isn't how I run games at all. Or how I experience playing ttrpgs.

Each of my games and tables works very differently from a playstyle point of view. Do people run all their games the same usually?

Like realism vs drama, that is a system and table question, not a how do you run your games in general question. If you run a Masks game with the same level of realism and drama as you run The Dark Eye, at least one of your games will feel off imo.

The same is true for most of the questions made. In narrative games the players will have much more agency over the world than in a hexcrawl. One will have cooperative world building, while the other is about exploring the either preset world and/or randomly generated events and locations. The list goes on.

My point: this seems to be written by someone who is used to each table or GM or player having a singular way to play. Definitely not true for the two groups I meet with a few times a month.

 

ADHD kids and also adults I guess can sometimes be a bit much for normies especially when we get excited. I know I do. Sometimes I even hyper fixate on a person for a while. I learned this by alienating a lot of friends over the years. It hurts a ton to be rejected so often especially as a kid and teen.

I'd love to be able to help my children to learn this in a leas painful way. But at the same time I don't want to teach them that they are in some way "wrong". I don't want them to feel like being themselves is bad. At the same time I know it can be hard on others when my kids are so overbearing as I tended to be myself.

Any ideas, thoughts and opinions appreciated.

 
 

 

Some more additions to my Mummified Undead army.

 

Some of the new models from the free faction update. Love the army standart bearer.

Champion with spear:

Herald with dual weapon:

Back

 

Test model for my Mummified undead army painting project. I think I'll add more color depth to the cloak and experiment with some different bandage color tones in the future.

Backside

 

Earlier today I was browsing through shelves at a toy store to look for a last gift for one of my daughters. That's when I hear an excited voice ask one of the store employees 'do you have dungeons and dragons?'. I listen in and learn that they do not have any DnD material at all and also can't order it. I walk a bit closer and see 3 12 year old ish boys and a girl with disappointed faces. The employee also can't help them where to find dungeons and dragons products.

Now I live in Germany where you can't find dnd boxes at the likes of Target like in the US for example. In fact I know of 2 stores in the whole city which carry DnD books and material.

I step in and ask if I may help out with the question. I tell them that there are 2 stores which carry the books, dice and more on the other side of the city. They said that's far away but they'll try to go there in Saturday.

We get talking and they tell me about how they are looking to start a dnd club at school and also play at home. They got a set of dice and saved around 70 euros for a book and maybe some more dice and such. I tell them that'll buy them the players handbook which is a good starting point and maybe some extra dice.

They ask me if I played as a kid and I said yes, in fact I still do and I'll be playing tonight. That's when I made a weird decision in my head. I had all my stuff already with me so I don't have to go back home between work and game night. I opened my backpack and gave them my copies of the PHB and Monster Manual. They were super excited and actually insisted to pay me but I'd have felt bad taking money from them.

I didn't want to post this as virtue signaling stuff or anything. It was just kind of a crazy decision I made that I think was kinda cool. They just reminded me so much of me when I started out. We were lucky to get our first dnd books gifted by an older brother of one of our group's members. So I wanted to pay it forward. Now I just have to figure out how to run tonight's game without my books.

 

Hey. I was told having issues controlling anger or emotions in general can be related to ADHD. I know I get WAY angrier than anyone should ever be sometimes.

Especially when injustice and ignorance come my way. I get furious beyond anything I've ever seen or heard of anyone else talk about. Maybe aside from depictions of killers or berserkers in fiction. It's not cool.

Only a few times have I gotten in trouble for it luckily and I never actually done anything more than shout the most disgusting insults at someone.

Now I do feel bad afterwards if I got angry at someone I like. But often enough I feel they fucking deserved it. If someone is an ignorant asshole willingly ruining someone's day, week or life they deserve some ruin thrown back at them. I know this might not be a good and healthy thing to think. But if someone provokes someone don't they ask to be yelled at?

I know they do this to 'win the argument' because of that imo idiotic notion that who yells first is wrong. But honestly I rarely care to be right enough for shit to matter.

I've read a few books on anger management and some techniques help a bit. But the amount of anger described in the book seems so very mild to me in comparison to what I experience and how fast it builds up. One book told me to count to three. I am ready to launch nukes before I reach 1. That won't work.

And I don't get angry at something. I have pure rage and fury, hatred and contempt for existence itself at those moments. Angry really doesn't cut it. It's scorched earth, blown it all up and piss on the ruins kind of anger.

So anyone else experience this? Any tips to deal with this shit?

 

Hey everyone.

I got the steam game on a sale some time ago. Now my wife is playing it a lot more than me through family share. Her birthday is coming up and I'm thinking about getting the game for her as it also won Spiel des Jahres this year.

Have any of you played the game? I'd be happy to hear any experiences you want to share.

 

 

Who doesn't like Owlbears? The snowy one is inspired by the dnd movie. The brown one was a partly failed print I had to fix with some green stuff.

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