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Following @NegativeNull@lemmy.world's post

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(except nowhere near the same level of quality - you people are amazing 🤩)

I was reading some articles and wow, just wow, they hit hard. I've almost never not had toxic bosses, except one who I absolutely adored (but he lost his own job, not being willing to suck up appropriately), and yet lately I haven't realized how bad my current situation has been!:-(

A not comprehensive listing could include:

• one who yells at people, both to their face and all the more so behind their backs, especially their own bosses
• highlights your weaknesses but ignores your strengths and also their own mistakes
• fails to tell you what they expect from you or give you the info you need to do the job yet expects you to magically fulfill their desires regardless
• is unrealistic, probably also disregarding work+life balance
• uses micromanagement or a culture of fear/intimidation; all communication with others must go to through them, possibly not even letting you listen in on the sidelines
• will not accept feedback or criticism
• takes credit for people's work, especially when they don't even understand what it is
• says hurtful/rude things, manipulative like the rules keep changing and you have no idea whatever is going on, basically lacks empathy
• plays favorites for people who suck up rather than actually are good at their tasks

Probably you can add to this list - these are just the ones my current boss does alone, but surely there are more?

How do you survive it? Personally I've been trying to bide my time to heal from emotional scars, so just doing whatever I can to get through each day/week.

For me: Hitchhikers Guide To The Galaxy.

I had seen the movie but never read the book before. It was a lot better than I expected.

Also what is your current/next book?

I'm continuing the saga with The Restaurant At The End Of The Galaxy.

And before you comment on this...:

For me, it's equivalent to a statement that "I would like to see more of something like this". That sometimes means upvoting things that I don't agree with, yet very often I'll pass over things that I do (such as "^This" - I agree, but don't want to see more of it:-). Often I'll upvote nearly every comment in a thread, to signal hopes for increased participation. To me it's a signal for health and vibrancy of a community to see such.

But other people I guess use it as an "I agree" or "like" button? If that's you, do you use it sparingly? What's the rationale there - that when it is delivered, it means more? But with Lemmy so small, why not deliver it more often to help it grow? I mean you feel free to do you, I'm just curious. Maybe you feel it could encourage "karma farming"?

I'd even like to ask lurkers what they think, although I suppose that literally by definition I cannot:-). Then again, I recently became a lurker myself by watching the embedded Loops videos at https://tesseract.dubvee.org/c/loops@midwest.social, and I really miss being able to comment or vote on videos to help guide others to which ones I feel are most/least worthwhile to watch. It feels like a finger is missing - I reach out to do my normal activity and it's gone.:-) So perhaps if someone was recently a lurker, what are your thoughts too?

This seems a helluva week!

We someone narrowly averted a government shutdown, so there's that.

The rise of extremist content I see on Lemmy makes me wonder how safe it is to be here - am I going to go onto some kind of list even if I participate merely by arguing against it? It's making me seriously nervous.

Oh yeah, and it's Christmas!⛄

For me (as a programmer) it really varies a ton. I used to put in insane stretches, due to the medication I needed to take in the past and that is how I got used to things in college.

Now I work more regularly, but still can put in a solid 6+ hr day most of the time, and yet some days... yeesh I'm lucky if I can get a third of that. So I work more on other days to compensate.

I am not in a comfortable situation in mine. It is a bit toxic tbh. The rest of it seems normal - so many meetings, everyone fumbling around trying to meet the goals that shift around. I do like the parts where I get to write code though:-).

Nobody enjoys 100% of every day and every activity. But do you enjoy your job... mostly?

In addition to coffee daily, I also drink an Irish Breakfast tea and usually 1-2 cups of various others later in the day as well (this winter season I'll do mint, chamomile, probably Rooibos or Oolong, whatever I happen to find for cheap).

An electric water kettle was given to me as a gift (but they are cheap anyway I thought?) and it's so super fast and easy. I don't really know what I'm doing - just pour, steep for ~1 min, then drink, repeat:-). For breakfast tea I add creamer, for the rest nothing. I'm sure I could do more like put those large packs in something airtight.

What do you rock, in terms of tea🍵?