Mrs_deWinter

Judging by their reaction, having a fleshlight on one's porch seems like a sensible idea.

As a psychotherapist, working with people who are self-aware is a pleasure. I wouldn't ever say that to someone if not meant as a genuine compliment.

Although I believe not many of our patients actually are as self aware as they think. I think we as humans often are good in introspection where it's easy and comfortable to do so, while glaring over pretty blatant cognitive errors in some other parts, and this is usually where problems arise and disorders develop. And interestingly some people seem to think of themselves as someone who's perfectly introspective but just for some external, unchangeable factor immune to any kind of positive change. Maybe they could feel irritated about the compliment, because in their minds it reinfoces their idea of being helpless against their problems (in the sense of: I already know everything, it's just not possible to change anything or I would've already done that)? I could imagine that's how I would feel, but of course it's just a guess.

Man könnte eine Bereitschsftsflotte bereithalten, aber wer will das bezahlen?

Jeder einzelne, wenns nach dir geht? Das ist doch im Grunde die Idee. Auch wenn autofreie Städte möglich wären, sollen wir sie nicht bauen, damit im Notfall jeder im eigenen Auto fliehen kann.

Also Individualverkehr zu reduzieren, so sinnvoll und wichtig es aus Umwelt- und Infrastrukturgründen auch wäre, geht nicht, weil Leute sich gerne ausmalen wollen, wie sie sich im Fall der Apokalypse auf eigene Faust mit ihren alten Verbrennerkarren durchschlagen.

Das ist mindestens mal ein sehr neurotisches Framing.

Was spricht gegen Evakuierung durch Öffis?

Vor allem Milchmischgetränke

Auf einen fertigen Kakao oder Eiskaffee aus Hafermilch wird die Abgabe gelten, bei Einsatz von Eutersaft nicht 🤡

Danke ZDF an der Stelle für einen tollen Streisand-Effekt, so hören schlussendlich sicher noch viel mehr Leute dieses fantastische Stück

Bangladesh is so fucking asymmetric

WHY

you fail to understand that people can have very real and ernest friendships that are different from your presuppositions around friendship

What makes you think that? It's nice if you don't put on a front in different social settings, but many people absolutely do. Which in itself I find completely understandable. We are social animals and deeply dependent on being accepted and loved, and society certainly doesn't hold back with expectations, which most of us then try to meet in one way or another.

I tend to not talk about myself that much anyway (I also have a therapist, which may contribute to my not feeling like I need to), and when I'm with friends who do, I mostly listen

If that's what you prefer more power to you, just would be tragic if you did so because you felt pressured into it.

And it just so happens that society does put the expectation on men especially not to overshare, to rarely show vulnerability if at all, to be strong for others, to silently endure.

That doesn't mean men who adhere to those expectations can't legitimately have fun with their friends (or even feel like that's all they want from friendships).

And maybe you are 100% capable of chosing how open and trusting you are, devoid of all social expectations, I don't know you. Maybe you just so happen to arrive at a set of behaviours that match what society wants and expects from men. If not, this is something that we as a society have taken away and in a way continue to withhold from you. And that would indeed be sad, just because of how unfair that would be. It certainly is for the many people out there who are in fact incapable of this other kind of friendship (e.g. where you assign value to your feelings and experiences and want to share them) - not by an informed choice, but through subtle social pressure. That's what I meant originally.

Makes sense. In any case, it’s great he’s getting help. Hope he gets better soon!

To be fair psychiatrists in Germany see you for just as short a time. Psychotherapists see you for an hour a week. Psychiatrists just prescribe medication and don't actually talk to you beyond that.

Many people don't know the difference though so your friend might simply believe they get an hour with a psychiatrist. And than there's the rare exception of a psychiatrist who is in fact also a trained psychotherapist. Most of them still call themselves psychiatrist, because doctors have a much higher social standing than psychologists (which in germany most psychotherapists are). Its complicated. But in general: Most psychiatrists have very little time for their patients.

(Source: Am psychotherapist in Germany and know our complicated system very well.)

When I am with a gal friend a kinda switch gears

Doesn't that make you stop and think? Why is it necessary to swich gears at all? I mean what's actually your authentic self and why is he not allowed in (at least?) one of those situations?

Damn that's sad