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I never knew there was a difference, whoops

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I also think its about the magnitude. It's a huge difference between reading "they died" and a long detailed description of how. Or a photo or even video.

The first I'd say don't need a warning, but the rest might depending on how realistic it is.

I appreaciate warnings overall as I struggle with anxiety so I can still use the internet even on bad days

I often upvite posts. I try to make an effort to leave comment now and then. I rarely find anything to make a post about tho.

Tthis is really cool! Thanks for sharing!

It is an actual phrase now! \(^.^)/

I'm not sure what it means to be swamped. But I can also be really slow to get crafty stuff done haha

Oh, a gusset. Thanks! Then I know what to search for. I'll check some videos as you suggested. I think the hardest part might be to measure how much I actually need to add and to make it even on both sides haha

Hey! Did you manage to repair it? :)

Edit: I now realized you wrote in an Adhd community.. Sorry for being stupid below. But my point still stands tho

Yes true, it's different for everyone! I've read your reply. Kinda ironic they say it's obvious while being neurodivergent (sounds like autism, I'm also autistic).

You are not a mind-reader. And it is SO easy to miss a cue even if you knew them all because you can't look at their whole body at the same time. Also if it is as obvious as they say, they should be able to teach you all the cues. (I realize that isn't the case tho, but it would be logical)

I would refuse to play with someone who refuses to communicate. The worst case scenario is death and depending on what flavor of BDSM ones like, that can easily happen. Permanent damages even more likely. Being neurodivergent isn't an excuse to skip communication.

But, a real suggestion. Maybe you two can playfully explore their body to help them increase their body awareness?

shneancy knows what they are talking about!

I also want to add that you can try out BDSM stuff without sex. (BDSM doens't even need to very sexual) If you two are unsure about how something feels, pain/comfort-levels etc, try it in a more neutral situation and have fun with it.

Example:

Say you two have talked and are curious about face-slapping.

So you or both start with reading about common damages that can happen (hearing-loss eg), what do to if it happens and tips on how to do it in a good way (hand-positioning eg).

Try it on your self first, how does it feel to slap your own face on different places? Maybe compare with slapping other body-parts.

Then you two get together in a relaxed comfy situation. Start SLOW. Like, a light tap on the cheek. Talk about how that felt. Try slightly harder or change position, angle etc. Explore, slow and steady.

Afterwards, depending on how intense it gets, do some aftercare (for many: cuddles, candy, water, maybe a comforting movie and comfort each other) and let some time go to land in the feelings. Sometimes it takes a bit to process it all.

I'm glad we only have old chrome-casts then because we don't have any smart TVs and might never get one either if it's possible. The little I've interacted with them, they seems to be a real pain in the ass. Some/all of them collect loads of data as well. NO THAN YOU. Yes, I might be old and grumpy :c