Often it’s because I’m just too afraid because the person is ridiculously good looking that I don’t think I have a chance, rejection always sucks. I’ve been with an attractive person or two in my time, so I know it’s not impossible, I’m ok-ish on a good day, but I know I’ll be so… distracted by their good looks that I probably won’t have anything intelligent to say.

There’s also the chance that either of us is in a relationship or workmates, which just isn’t a good mix and eventually leads to problems. Otherwise, I wish casual sex was just a common thing that people just did without any stigma attached to it (assuming STDs weren’t so rampant and safe sex was also just as common).

Because of my mirror.

We were coworkers sharing an office. Also she was married (and didn't identify herself as polyamorous). I didn't want to start drama.

To be honest, I've had 4 actual crushes so far, and I asked out 3 of them. They all ended in rejection, and the one I didn't ask, I don't know about. I'm moving away soon, I know I won't see her again, and I barely know her, so I decided it's best to leave it at that. We haven't talked much, but it is still a bit of a what if I talked to her more and asked her out when I had the time for that, and the chance?

Lack of self-confidence? Even when given the chance to do so... was probably for the best, I'm in a stable long term relationship now and at the time, I would have been a pretty rubbish boyfriend.

I couldn't be a used car salesman. I wouldn't be able to bring myself to sell someone a lemon.