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For me, self care is:
A trip to IKEA
Reading
Putting phone on silent
Playing classical music
Eating IKEA meatballs
Long, hot shower
Getting a shave at the barber shop
Spending time with favourite person
Uber eats from a proper restaurant (not fast food)
Knitting/crocheting
Fixing something that's broken (mechanical, not electrical)
Going for a gentle walk an hour before sunset when it's less hot outside
IKEA is therapy
Meditation is the best for me. Not striving to get out of the "down" state, but just being there, present, watching it, feeling it, being with it. You know that sooner or later it'll go. Just as being cheerful also goes. Arts are also wonderful. For me it's music. For some people painting or writing. Those are ways in which you can connect with your feelings and discover some really neat things when you can really connect. You channel your complex emotions into creativity. I personally think that playing a videogame or having a distraction can some very specific times get you out of a mood, but most of the time it will just be avoidance of something that is happening within you. We are so used in avoiding ourselves. Be it a videogame, TV, a reel, a joint, a beer, a chat, whatever. For me there are few things better than what happens when you manage to overcome the boredom, fear, anxiety or whatever keeps you away from being just where you are and decide to just stay there and look at it with eyes wide open. Something opens. It's probably not fireworks nor spiritual epiphany, but a subtle thing that has the taste of real. And that real is oh so liberating.
Been watching James May's Our Man in India and it's fantastic.
You could also try watching Bluey. Like, unironically it's a fantastic show. Best way I've seen someone put it is that it's a show for adults that children can watch.
Head for the crafting table. The combination of precision and concentration it takes gives me a little break from being inside my own head for a while.
I miss making things so much, but everything is too expensive and I don't have the money to spend $60 on an electronics project I have been thinking about doing for months.
I sit still and try to feel the sadness as directly as possible, without any distractions at all.
Gummy bears.
Waste time on the internet, maybe modding or other nerdy projects
A walk, copius amounts of alcohol (will postpone not solve), a joint with a favourite movie/tv show and a tall glass of choccy milk.
Shopping, alcohol, gambling, drugs. None of those is my answer.
It's just better to get used to a baseline level of misery than relying on happiness to get yourself out of a funk.
That said, turn the fucking devices off, get a big fucking cup of herbal tea, and look at the natures for 30 minutes. You are not allowed to press the buttons on the misery-skinner-box until tea is gone and timer is up.
I just remember that everything is going to die with the heat death of the universe and I feel at peace.
Lists, strong emotive music, niche interest rabbit holes (preferably new) and awful people (It's always Sunny)... I also clean if I'm able, short bursts usually.
Caffeine, and spend money.
You gotta start it with a positive jam!
Say "bubbles" in the deepest voice you possibly can. It always make me chuckle when in a funk.
Just wait until you watched a certain little Britain sketch. "Bubbles" will be forever etched into your mind.
talk to my comrades on hexbear
Take a nice shower,get to yoga class even on the days I don't feel like it, treating myself to a nice book or random thing I want, talking to my therapist and letting it all out.
listen to sad songs
That doesn't sound like it'd help
Sometimes the only way to deal with bad emotions is to go through them. It's good to take time and recognize your emotions and explore them, if that makes sense. Listening to sad songs might help with that and it helps you feel not alone because someone else feels bad too.
It is important to not dwell too much or else you might turn into a teenage angst version of me and no one wants that.
Singing to your favorite songs
Mjuzik
I listen to some Rick Astley.
He's never going to let you down.
He's never messed around and hurt me.
Listen to music.
Seriously, two things on the internet can help me laugh uncontrollably.
Reading Garfield Minus Garfield. It's hilarious when you just imagine that Jon is simply completely neurotic.
Or, whatever hilarious "autocorrect" disaster screenshots will do the trick also.
I gets me some delicious, fresh baked memes from above wholesome farm (discord channel) that I know won't make me feel worse because they enforce their utopian ideals through heavy handed moderation.
We're all just feeding answers to the AI overlords.
Go goth and embrace the mood. Nothing wrong with being sad sometimes.
watching some avgn makes me feel better