I think the hard-distinction that trans people have as putting themselves in little boxes like 'feminine' and 'masculine' are kind of harming the whole idea.

Having tea parties isn't girly. Playing with dolls isn't girly. Wearing pants isn't masculine. Playing in the dirt as a kid isn't masculine. They're just kid things. There's too much emphasis on what's boy or girl like, and people are convinced they're "a girl" because...they like pink? They like tea parties? They like the clothes that girls wear? You can still be a guy and like those things, those aren't "girl things", they're just things. I hate this idea that everything has to fall into one of those two categories, and if you like something from the 'other side' you're trans.

It's perfectly acceptable to like/do things that the other sex does, without BEING that sex.

I (cis male) used to have tea parties with my dog all the time. Had a little set specifically for it. Stop forcing fun childhood activities into rigid gender groups.

That's not a sign of being Trans, that's a sign of liking tea parties. Fucks sake. Quit shoving activities into gender roles.

Having a tea party isn't girly, though. Let kids play how they want.

My daughter has a room decked out in pink, loves Hello Kitty and collects Raggedy Ann dolls. She also loves The Ramones and The Dead Kennedys and wears a leather biker jacket and spiked collars. And I love it all.

Fuck societal norms. Being who you are and doing what you want because you enjoy it is awesome.

Ok, my youngest identifies as a trans boy and honestly I was so very surprised when he told me, because my concept of womanhood is so broad that it didn't cross my mind that anything they were doing was boyish. I just thought he identified as a 40 year old lesbian with dumpy style. I still can't quite see it, just a beautiful androgynous person with bad taste in clothing, and reasonably good taste in girlfriends.

maybe they just where tired of being taxed by the british without any representation in the british parliament?

Yeah, I always found it interesting that society is in general headed for sex-(and IMHO also gender-)correlated roles ceasing to exist, and trans folks absolutely push that forward by unearthing the idea that gender or identity should have anything to do with what's in your pants, yet they also are often some of the biggest perpetrators of gendered identities.
Like, when a trans lady finds her identity and has come out, they often really enjoy the lady identity, so it'll be skirts and pink and all that jazz.

I guess, maybe it shouldn't matter. Maybe those aren't necessarily gendered identities, but at some point just an identity, which you can find neat. Like, we're giving up the male vs. female categories, but more in the sense that we're opening up the whole rainbow, and if your identity is hot pink, that might look like the traditionally female identity, but this time around, it rather just happens to be your identity.

Will still be interesting to see, if maybe some hot pink trans ladies will one day decide that actually this new purplish-green identity is my jam, whenever we work out what that looks like.

I know I'm an extreme outlier here, but I've always kind of thought that assigned gender roles were dumb, that liking pink, tea parties, skirts, etc was never indicative of being trans or anything else. So I don't even think those are early signs of being trans. Because none of that shit matters. Everybody is just a person and the shape of their genitals doesn't impact their social or cultural behavior in any way other than how their parents force them to act.

Straight cis dude here. Nana brought out the special cookies and some bitchin dress up clothes (including a top hat). Tea parties rock no matter what your orientation.

And I wore dresses because I wanted to look fabulous. Who doesn't want to look fabulous?

Tea parties are awesome.
I remember one time, there were these sweet cookies made out of fat and flour and I ate a lot of them. Two hours later I vomited like crazy because of the fat.
Another time, instead of tea and those cookies, it was milk and jam. Same thing really, different flavours. Also the vomit was more pleasant to look at.
There wasn't an another time after that. I still wonder why sometimes...

Why can't a straight cis male wear a breezy skirt? Why can't a cis female wear cargo shorts and have hairy legs?

It's not just gender roles, we have boxes to put people in for every way they might choose to identify. It's getting time to break away from all of that.

People need to stop worrying about what others do with their genitals or even what those genitals are. Doesn't matter for anything until you want to get into a relationship.

Weaponized tea party

Tea parties are fucking awesome