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Discussion Thread 📚 Tuesday 13 October 2026 (aussie.zone)

submitted 1 week ago by YarraByte@aussie.zone to c/melbourne@aussie.zone

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[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

relationship catharsis

Today my ex wakes up in Tasmania with her sister on the holiday that I broke up with to avoid. We broke up for many reasons, but I'd checked out and couldn't face feigning relationship investment for a full week. We had a nice chat the other day, she let me have it on a few fronts with good points. I seem to lack emotional availability, I didn't have anything to say to that :). She'd acknowledged what wasn't working for her. I feel we were both hoping the not working stuff would work but it wasn't going to. We met at bad places in our lives and were good for each other during that time. It's a shame that it didn't work but it's nice that it happened. Less traumatic than messy youthful breakups. I should try again.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

hugs

Holiday with my ex was the worst most awkward time.

we rented an airbnb with the young Seagoons at a place near lorne

I did not want share a room and didn't

but I basically never went on holiday for a very long time and part of the reason was because holidays are a special time and i didn't want any special times

re emotional availability, I had to look that up, had no clue what that meant. I think it is in a lot of ways pop psych speak and can mean anything or nothing. It can also be a vague way to attribute blame. Unless someone recounts real actions I'm going to say it's a pretty useless thing to say other than as a statement of how someone feels about communication

So it's a tricky one. My ex didn't say much and I don't think I would have liked it if he did, there was nothing there but distrust and malice from the get go , but I might have run much much earlier if he did.

me, i stopped sharing with him when what I would share became points for him to abuse and mock. So not sharing was not a bad thing on my part. But as rule I was still open and kind to him.

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I broke things off so actual availability was an issue.

I've just received a PIC of the ex, her sister and her fwb at a distillery we were going to visit. I don't care for whiskey much anyway. Glad she's got someone there for comfort. Bit gauche sending a photo including the fwb, it was taken by a third party so it seems and active choice. The drinking was an issue for me too so photos from a distillery lean into that.

[–] lowtheseal@aussie.zone 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

How would you feel going no contact?

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I feel that if I don't maintain contact we'll be low contact anyway. She came to my place FIVE times in ten months of relationship. I made the whole thing very convenient for her, I doubt I'll see much effort from her to hang out. I got an invite to the birthday party in a month but if she's sending me holiday pics with her FWB maybe fuck it all.

[–] SpinMeAround@aussie.zone 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, that FWB photo is quite the choice...

BTW, I might have missed it, but how did it go with the apartment?!

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago

No luck yet. Like AJ, I'll keep at it. X

[–] lowtheseal@aussie.zone 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Were you happy with that balance? And yeah if someone I saw sent me pics with their FWB, I would duck right off.

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Not really happy with it.

There was a little story attached that he happened to be in Tasmania doing a whiskey tasting which is what my ex wanted to do there.

There was a line in Landman where he said the beauty of breaking up is that you don't have to care about this stuff.

[–] lowtheseal@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yikes.

Yep sometimes break ups are for the better hey.

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Are you still seeing your partner? I remember you seemed to start a new thing a little after mine started (Nov last year).

[–] lowtheseal@aussie.zone 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Yes I am. We will be doing long distance soon but it should be fine I hope haha

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

It will or wont be fine but the you/relationship will be better for it. Sometimes a little stress can help define priorities.

[–] lowtheseal@aussie.zone 2 points 5 days ago

Yeah agreed. Test of strength

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

seems like she wasn't/isn't too sensitive to your needs, feelings and experience 🤨

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago

We were good for each other while both in a dark place. It's good that it's ended.

[–] tombruzzo@aussie.zone 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I know you guys won't find this dumb but I'm actually pretty excited for lunch today because I have all this Roll'd chilli oil to use

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Mate. You need to be making your own chilli oil.

[–] tombruzzo@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'll need to look into it and get started

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

It's a bit of an outlay for the spices the first time but its super easy and super tasty. Blows Lao Ga Ma out of the water.

No one buy star anise, I have 1kg of it which is many a lifetime supply.

[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

1kg! Why?

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I was in springy grabbing bulk spices and they were all 1kg. It was only ~$12 or something. I've been making my own chai for years and haven't got through the wee bag of it I got from Friends of The Earth 20 years ago. 1kg of Star anise is crazy, someone will inherit that.

[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago

😂

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

never get kilos of any spices except pizza ones and chicken salt. (and in my case, lemon pepper but I'm total spiders george on that)

go for the bicarb soda bags instead.

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago

I get through kilos of cinnamon, chilli and szechuan peppercorns.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I had 8 hours sleep 😊

[–] CadMunt@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago

totes jelly

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Tried to strip the red out of my hair, and it's turned a weird pink-ish champagne-y colour with my natural colour prominent near the scalp. I was expecting a coppery look tbh.

Letting it heal a bit before going to home bleach it. I found a vegan bleach (!) so gonna give that a go. Then, most likely on the weekend, I'll try to dye it pink and purple and see how it comes out.

[–] Catfish@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Luck!

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 2 points 1 week ago

🍀

[–] lowtheseal@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Bleach isn't vegan?

Good luck!

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago

Idk man, I think it means the extra bottles that stop the hair from breaking entirely lol, keeps it somewhat healthy. I assume it's the fats and oils and shit that are vegan, rather than referring to the bleach itself.

Thank you!

[–] T4peMeasure@aussie.zone 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

why is there only 3 chicks left??!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oibsohQ14cY 😱 😫

[–] Pilk@aussie.zone 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

It passed from exposure to the heat/sun. It seems mum had some trouble keeping up with the chicks movements.

Detailed description from the Dr Victor Hurley

Well, it is quite sad to confirm what we all already know. One of the nestlings has died. Sorry, I have been in the field out of phone range all day to report sooner.

From a brief review of the tapes it appears the nestlings spread out in all directions and this overwhelmed F24's ability to keep on top of things. With one in the gutter (a new occurrence for this year) and one at the extreme end of the nest box, F24 suffered from the "Vegemite Syndrome", which is just a matter of being spread too thin!

From my experience, that far corner gets really hot with no air circulating and these nestlings are too young to efficiently moderate their own body temperatures. If this one did in fact die from heat stress it will be the first out of 78 since 1992 to succumb this way. It was a short life and it filled us all with joy whilst it was here.

The adults now have three young to focus their attention on and I am confident they will have this in hand through to fledging.

[–] T4peMeasure@aussie.zone 6 points 1 week ago

sad but thanks for the info 🙏🙏🙏. thanks lil birdie for bringing us joy 🙏🙏🙏.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Still so mentally tired while at the same time trying to get difficult things done ( that's the point of abuse, eh, to degrade ability 🤨 ) but it's been great to have the young Seagoons 😭

and Bill Cat is better everyday

So I've been reading a book on how to heal after gaslighting, it's very interesting as well as healing, I can feel my rational mind get better all the time . It's called "What if I'm Wrong? ( You're not) " by Dr Peter Salerno. It's all science based.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago

just did 30 mins latin , they tell me i'm acing it, i feel like i'm not doing well at all

[–] bacon@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago (3 children)

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[–] TheWitchofThornbury2@aussie.zone 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Deep fried creme caramel please chef.

[–] bacon@aussie.zone 2 points 1 week ago

🛢️🔥🥛🍬

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

crumpets with honey please and a coffee

[–] Stigger32@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Crumpets with golden syrup! 😁

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 points 1 week ago

that stuff is delicious

[–] bacon@aussie.zone 2 points 1 week ago

🥯🍯☕️

[–] Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Greek yoghurt with banana and blueberries and a little honey please

[–] bacon@aussie.zone 2 points 1 week ago

🏛️🥛🍌🫐^🍯^

[–] MidsizedSedan@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

First time in this beautiful city. Used to think flying across the country for 1 cinema screen was a waste. Not any more. (Shame I found this post as I'm packing to go back home) but I'll be back in December for Dune.