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I broke things off so actual availability was an issue.
I've just received a PIC of the ex, her sister and her fwb at a distillery we were going to visit. I don't care for whiskey much anyway. Glad she's got someone there for comfort. Bit gauche sending a photo including the fwb, it was taken by a third party so it seems and active choice. The drinking was an issue for me too so photos from a distillery lean into that.
How would you feel going no contact?
I feel that if I don't maintain contact we'll be low contact anyway. She came to my place FIVE times in ten months of relationship. I made the whole thing very convenient for her, I doubt I'll see much effort from her to hang out. I got an invite to the birthday party in a month but if she's sending me holiday pics with her FWB maybe fuck it all.
Yeah, that FWB photo is quite the choice...
BTW, I might have missed it, but how did it go with the apartment?!
No luck yet. Like AJ, I'll keep at it. X
Were you happy with that balance? And yeah if someone I saw sent me pics with their FWB, I would duck right off.
Not really happy with it.
There was a little story attached that he happened to be in Tasmania doing a whiskey tasting which is what my ex wanted to do there.
There was a line in Landman where he said the beauty of breaking up is that you don't have to care about this stuff.
Yikes.
Yep sometimes break ups are for the better hey.
Are you still seeing your partner? I remember you seemed to start a new thing a little after mine started (Nov last year).
Yes I am. We will be doing long distance soon but it should be fine I hope haha
It will or wont be fine but the you/relationship will be better for it. Sometimes a little stress can help define priorities.
Yeah agreed. Test of strength
seems like she wasn't/isn't too sensitive to your needs, feelings and experience ๐คจ
We were good for each other while both in a dark place. It's good that it's ended.