Yeah I've got some cishet friends like that, I think. It's nice!
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I, a cishet stay at home dad who likes cooking, gardening, musical theater, and the beauty of the universe (among other things currently considered gender non-conforming), also sometimes struggle finding common ground with people who find comfort in the patriarchy.
I don't think it's strange, maybe uncommon depending on where you are. One of my (trans woman) best friends is a cishet man. He has said similar things to you in the past, how he has an easier time generally getting along with women and queer people than to other cishet men.
He is an emotionally intelligent person, and is drawn to people who share his interests and level of empathy. This tends to exclude most of the cishet men he knows, but not all.
I know you're really asking trans folk, but I'm poking my nose in anyway because I feel you.
I'm cishet, but I've been at least loosely connected to the LGBTQ+ community since back when it was still just LGB as far as most people were aware of.
While I had, and do have, cishet friends, I've always found that I tend to prefer the company of folks living on the rainbow in one way or another. Not necessarily because of shared interests, though that's a factor for sure. It's the community, the way that folks living beyond the default assumptions tend to look at the world, and treat people.
I've never really fit the standard white cishet world, and likely never will even if it shifts a lot more than I believe possible. But hanging out with my gay friends always felt like home, like I belonged. Again, not necessarily because of shared interests, but it was really nice to be able to engage with some of those things and have people not only get them, but share enthusiasm.
By the time I ran into the trans community within the greater LGBTQ community, I knew damn good and well that I was going to find plenty of common ground, and plenty to love about the people involved. I was right, and I am so thankful that trans people exist, though I dearly wish their path in the world was easier.
Not saying I necessarily like every individual, but damn if I don't usually like a damn bigger percentage than of the general population lol.
So I totally relate :)
I mean, not all trans folks like the same things.
Also, maybe you meant cis instead of hetero? Many trans folks are hetero.