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Disabled Community Megathread from May 18th, 2026 to May 31st, 2026 (hexbear.net)

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[–] Keld@hexbear.net 6 points 3 weeks ago (10 children)

Hey so remember that I lodged a complaint about a professor who told everyone about medical information of mine? Well she investigated herself and found herself not guilty.

But also i got an A on a test so who can say if life is good or bad right now?!

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago

Congrats on the A, at least! Sorry everything else with the school is so awful, I wish there were more options out there for you.

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[–] roux@hexbear.net 6 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

I'm probably getting fired from my job for not being able to pick up on social queues. My boss has told me a few times that I can't "blame everything on my autism" even though it literally affects my entire life. So that is cool. Idk what I'm gonna do. I might pull my 401k out and use that to live on until I figure something out. I want something that is fulfilling and turns out Amazon delivery driver isn't all that fulfilling. Who fucking knew?

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

It's so evil the way the employment world is geared towards only catering for neurotypical, healthy, able-bodied people, and yet if a neurodivergent, unwell or disabled person gets financial assistance or can't hold down a job, they are treated as a burden and a loser, or their struggles are diminished. What your boss is doing however, sounds like illegal disability discrimination. Do you have a union?

[–] roux@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm an Amazon delivery driver. We are very much at the bottom of the list for any sort of unionizing. The Teamsters are around but mostly in bigger cities and they've had at least a little success with unionizing some of the warehouses. They were in my city 2 years ago to bring a bit of awareness but since the city I live in is super fashy, it was mostly symbolic.

I've had 34 jobs in 25 years and I've been fired from the majority because of my disabilities. The main problem is I was diagnosed by a therapist and not a psychologist so it's not exactly official on paper. So I can't do anything legally against getting fired. If I do get fired and take my 401k out, I'm considering seeking out one of our trade unions because at least I will have those union protections going forward. But also I'm old as fuck at this point so it almost seems useless.

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Are you able to get diagnosed by a psychologist? Why won't a diagnosis from a therapist be acceptable?

[–] roux@hexbear.net 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I think in the States, it's only taken seriously if it's from a psychologist. I can't afford a real diagnosis.

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 6 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I'm at a family wedding rn and my family are simply gonna have to accept that I'm the autistic ADHD cousin who cannot keep up with the neurotypicals. And actually my uncle just told my aunt to leave me alone, I think he gets that I'm not on their level. That was actually really nice of him, he's usually a very unseruous and sassy guy but he gets that I want to rest and not dance.

[–] Keld@hexbear.net 4 points 2 weeks ago

Sometimes understanding comes from the oddest places.

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 3 points 2 weeks ago

Unc gets some bonus points for that one, hopefully you made it through without any more annoyances

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 6 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

Hope all my disabilibuddies are doing ok.

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[–] gingerbrat@hexbear.net 5 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (6 children)

I got the nice-strangest compliment today. My endo did an ultrasound to check out my organs (mostly liver and kidneys) and she looked at the screen at one point and told me with the biggest beaming smile that my liver "looks beautiful". It's apparently so healthy, it could be a textbook example of what a liver should look like. I don't know how to handle the compliment, it's like I can't just tell people I have a pretty liver without getting a rightfully confused look, but it made me feel really good.

Never was so happy that I got sober 6 years ago and that my liver managed to regenerate completely. She's a tough one, and I hope she's happy about the compliment too.

[–] Dort_Owl@hexbear.net 4 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Huh, I also got sober 6 years ago, that's a fun coincidence

A healthy liver is actually something to be damn proud of. The amount it has to put up with just because of pollution in our environment alone makes it surprising that anyone has a healthy one, so good job

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[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 4 points 4 weeks ago

Proud of you too, comrade floppy-owl

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[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 4 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

That's wonderful! possum-party

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[–] Keld@hexbear.net 3 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

The liver is a tough one. It's kind of messed uo how much of our bullshit one organ deals with. And then there's the spleen just fucking skating.

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[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 5 points 2 weeks ago

The NHS have released a warning list of medications that can make you extra-unwell during the heatwave. Guess what - NINE of the medications I am prescribed are on the list. Good thing I don't actually take them all.

[–] PKMKII@hexbear.net 5 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I have a disabled friend, muscular dystrophy which requires them to use a wheelchair, and they’ve dealt with a problem that’s becoming awfully close to a pattern with Stubhub. They go on Stubhub, specifically select that they need wheelchair accessible seating for a concert. Stubhub returns tickets that are marked for wheelchair seating and they buy said tickets. But when the actual tickets show up, they’re for regular seating.

First time this happened, they didn’t find out until they got to the concert. Thankfully, the venue accommodated them and got them wheelchair seating. After that first time, they double checked the tickets they were e-mailed and lo and behold, regular seating again. That time, they complained directly to Stubhub who found actual wheelchair seating.

The problem seems to be that unscrupulous resellers are falsely labeling the tickets to get more sales, and Stubhub isn’t thoroughly vetting the tickets getting resold. So something to be mindful of when dealing with them and other event ticket resellers.

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 3 points 4 weeks ago

something to be mindful of when dealing with them and other event ticket resellers

Appreciate the heads up, it sucks that such a simple thing gets convoluted by these awful ticket brokers.

[–] Dort_Owl@hexbear.net 4 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (2 children)

"Oh I work with someone who has the same conditions as you and they're very successful"

Oh great, so it's my fault I'm struggling with basic things haha. I mean, I know what they probably meant is to not give up hope that I can be successful, but man it made me feel like my struggles are personal failings.

What else can you do but try your best though?

[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 5 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

that shit drives me nuts.

yea i could probably be successful if i was luckier and could have got a programming job when just about everyone could, but instead i graduated into a hyper competitive market where i will get rejected for asking for accommodation

success is all just luck, telling someone 'i know someone like you but they got lucky' isn't very interesting

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[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 4 points 4 weeks ago

I feel you. It can then become a struggling with struggling with those mixed feelings. Hopefully they were trying to be encouraging about it and not condescending. I'd like to believe most people would be accepting of "I did my best" and not be openly judgy about it. x-files I-Want-to-Believe.png

[–] CupcakeOfSpice@hexbear.net 4 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

In a really bad place. Weighing the pros and cons of continuing life. Think it might be a medication issue (as in, a new med might be causing these feelings) so hopefully it'll get better soonish. Also really irritable, so I may not be on here as much because, while I appreciate the news and memes and such, it can be really disheartening. Not this mega, though. I love all y'all. But the site in general can get to be a bit much sometimes.

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Hope you're doin better today comrade

[–] CupcakeOfSpice@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago

Better maybe. Haven't been actively wanting to die as much, but yeah. Only just started titrating, so maybe not big changes yet. I'm expecting to be feeling more better by the end of the week. Thank you for your concern, though! cuddle

[–] gingerbrat@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Hexbear can be a lot, you are right about that. If the new meds keep making you feel worse, is there a chance you can get back to the old ones without much hiccup? I hope the feelings pass, and that you'll always find more pros than cons. Love you too sweetie cuddle

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[–] Crucible@hexbear.net 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

penguin-love Love to all of you wonderful people

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[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

We seem to be having a heatwave in the UK. Which I hate, my high thyroxine dose makes me feel uncomfortably hot anyway. And I inflamed my achilles tendon again yesterday just lifting a shopping bag.

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

The heat being this bad so early is wild. Hope your tendon settles back down quickly cuddle

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 3 points 2 weeks ago

Thank you, but I think taking antibiotics for so long recently has really worsened all my tendons, my elbows and knees are really bad too. And of course the physio didn't have time to deal with it at my recent appointment.

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 4 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Guess who threw out their back again owl-pissed

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[–] userse31@hexbear.net 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

My subconscious "flirts" with nonhuman identities some of us autists have.

On a mental level, I kinda just.... Exist! Don't really have an internal self portrait of myself.

Also why is this turning me on?:

[–] CupcakeOfSpice@hexbear.net 4 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

I do that too! I don't know if I'm autistic, but my mental image is that of some eldritch something or other. I certainly don't feel entirely human, and maybe that's not a bad thing. If you don't mind, could you share some of these thoughts or "flirtations"? If you don't want to or whatever, that's cool too.

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[–] Keld@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Making vegan creme brulee, because I am an adult who makes adult decisions.

[–] gingerbrat@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I want one too lenin-heart

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