Personally I think the concept of deadnaming applies to cis-people as well if they legally changed their names. Some parents really pick the shittiest names imaginable for their offspring and no one should blame the latter for changing them legally.
this post was submitted on 11 Apr 2026
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Doesn't even need to be a particularly shitty name. All that's necessary is the individual feels strongly enough about not being called their deadname.
True. And in Ireland quite many people have one or several middle names and prefer one of those, thus legally changing it to their official first name.
Some prefer the Irish spelling of their names over the English spelling or in reverse. For example, my friend Noel legally changed his name to the Irish version Nollaig.
Irish names can be tough. Ive only text chatted with an online friend (This was early 2000 so voice chat wasnt common outside of raiding/coop games), and that meant that Ive trained in the completely wrong pronounciation of Siobhan (Im swedish) which made it weird when I met her and needed to retrain my brain.
That's a tough one. Same with Coimhe. π
I think I know the right way to say the name you replied to, but how the hell pronounce the one you wrote?
Quee (like the Band Queen), and then a soft -va or -wa.
You might receive a stroke trying to pronounce 'Aisling'... π€£
That kinda tracks, actually, from the little I've studied the Irish language. Trying to understand it from the English alphabet can't help, though, right?
For sure don't know how that's supposed to be said, but I'd bet they just go by Izzy.
All your questions are answered in this fun video. I love how they sing: "my name contains seven silent letters." π€
It's always simpler than it looks, till it ain't. Love it.
Had a friend with a dog named Sionach. Their vet's reception person always squirmed, apparently.
I think the concept applies to everything.
I, for example, am deadnaming twitter.
Itβs Xitter. The Xi is pronounced as in Xi Jinping
well... You HAVE To deadname twitter, I mean musk is pro dead naming since he would do it with his daughter all the time. So dead naming twitter is the right thing to do according to its new owner.
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Some parents really pick the shittiest names imaginable for their offspring and no one should blame the latter for changing them legally.
One day all those girls who were named Khaleesi are gonna absolutely fill up the cemetery of deadnames.
Honestly, I've known someone who just wanted to escape a shitty family and cut ties.
Removing their given name was a way to do it.
seems like its mostly white people deadnaming, shitty names. megan and MEGYN, elons probably the worst deadnamer. or 2 or 3 first names always ends up being a POS person. they try to make sound different, in order to get a reaction.
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crystal methvin, methany. anna rexia.
I was told the term comes from your dead name being what they put on your tombstone. The name you'd be unwillingly known as after you died. The erasure of trans lives by transphobic family members. I don't think its wrong to use it outside of that context but it would be bad to lose that history.
I always thought it was a 'dead' name in the sense that a person you no longer associate with is 'dead to me now'.
Like, 'dead' in the sense of defunct, obsolete, deprecated, no longer relevant, no longer functional.
That's interesting! I always assumed it was the literal "that name is no longer with us", but that makes a lot of sense.
Earliest sign of me being trans was that I hated my name, and would always use an alias whenever possible π
Fuck Reddit and Fuck Spez.
Twitter has a deadname. It's the one case where I recommend using it.
I really prefer to mix them. Xitter has such a nice pronunciation, considering the amount of fecal matter spewed into its oh so vaunted halls.
I like to refer to tweets as Xcremenets now :)
Corps arenβt people so fuck em.