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ok, happy post π
The beach was beautiful the other day after the rain and stormy winds , clean sand and some great shells
that's a perfect frilled venerid, nearly impossible to find like this as they are they are so fragile, this one has not one single chip on it
I was like "Oh Wow" when I saw it on the sand.
green tea is sparkly π
Heart results came in:
ALL GOOOOOOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now I can resume my life without the constant paranoia :)
Hell yeah!!!
Made it down to the bellarine yesterday.
Had to escape. Shit was too tense. All the food is sorted for ol' girl but jeez did that little stint of not eating enough do a number on her mind and mood. Meltdowns about very odd things like overloading a circuit (had dryer, heater, washing machine and hairdryer on). Said I'm going to have to turn the heater off for a bit and all hell broke loose ('you can't do anything right'). Suggested to layer up for a bit (p's have a lot of cold weather stuff)... 'don't tell me what to do'.
Meltdown after weighing her (she's waay down, accusing me of not doing enough), then tipping the ensure I had ready to go in soup down the sink 'because I don't want it'. So I suggested if I can't get enough in we'll have to bypass the mouth which means you'll have to go in... 'you just want to get rid of me'.
GP prescribed her mirtazapine which she refuses. Took one myself (lol not supposed to do that) just to see if it does stimulate appetite and it surely does and would be really helpful. I am/was tempted to chuck it in food but I'm drawing the line at prescription. Happy to go behind her back w/ ensure though.
You try and reason but it just doesn't work. Frustrating af. Not her fault but it's exhausting trying to work out what to do as it changes daily.. so many moving parts.
Have to give respect to those in aged care doing this stuff for a living. It's wild enough just with one person.
They'll be down here over easter so few days off then back on the horse.
Since she is not of sound mind I'd be giving her the appetite meds mirtazapine
Ethical dilemma but yes I agree. If she canβt understand what the medication is for and that she is dangerously underweight, itβs not informed consent/refusal. Also being starving and dehydrated is not really helping the brain function either. From the comments it doesnβt sound like she is ready for palliative care, doesnβt want to die. So her wishes would be better met by giving her the medication. Perhaps giving sneaky doses for a week or so and see what happens. Reassess if she starts to regain some decision making capacity.
Just be careful as I gave those to Melbcat and stopped as she became more agitated. It is an antidepressant so can mess with the mood
For what it's worth, I hope you enjoy your much needed escape.
Iβm so sorry. Maybe the aged care forums will have some tips π https://www.agingcare.com/topics/212/refusing-care/questions
Edit: Or the Victorian Palliative Care Advice Service https://www.pcas.org.au/
And I heard utis in elderly can really set them off? But yeah. I think the trip was stressful and people feel more comfortable to lash out at their caregivers
Please care for yourself too. Even without the aggro and criticism at a certain point the level of expectations alone becomes abusive/dominates your life
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/depression-while-being-a-primary-caregiver-138183.htm
oh gawd so much of those last 2 links and comments resonates.
That is a dark rabbit hole (and i was reluctant to look up things like that) but thank you kindly for sharing them.
o7
It's so hard when they're not in their right mind, topped with all the health and medical stuff. I'm so sorry you're going through this friend, I'm glad you're able to get some time to decompress.
Thinking of you! ππ
Thank youβ€οΈ
I think the emotion thing is doing my head in. You have to switch it off when doing shit and not take it to heart, then it floods back at the end of the day.
so many hugs
I hear you
Why not put it in a cuppa?
I'm tempted to but something tells me not to. Spiking stuff (except w/ regular over the counter things) is just going a bit far for me.
Your instincts are right. You don't want her questioning her food safety, she has enough issues already!
I planned out some things I want to get from Aldi and can get a liftβ¦ but feeling too anxious to go out π«©
is it anxious to go out or anxious for journey?
You will feel relieved and happier after itβs done. Short term discomfort to achieve your needs. Perhaps the person giving you a lift can help you. You can do it.
The carpet stuff I wanted is currently on sale and cheaper at Colesβ¦ Iβll see how I feel but may allow myself to take today off
You can do it. The good thing about Aldi is you'll be in and out in half an hour. Less if you have a list. We believe in you.
curls into a pillbug
I do believe I've had a migraine the past few days, nearly over it now.
Multi day migraines are horrid. Glad itβs nearly over.
just a dull headache, very sensitive eyes, auras and I've had to pee 5 times already today
Put Dark Souls 3 on the Bazztop and that seems to be the upper limits of what it can run. Pretty impressive for a computer with some weird laptop graphics card that isn't made for gaming.
But the framerate is too inconsistent if I wanted to parry my way through Lothric. It's the simpliest Dark Souls but the combat is the tightest.
Is it worth running in a VM or not really?
I think its more of a hardware thing. Nightreign on the big PC runs fine, even online, so it's not a software or a FromSoft problem.
It's pretty good though considering this is the first game that has really made it struggle. I've been mindful of what I play on it but this gives a good sense of its range
Tradies below me doing renos are blasting cypress hill, and I'm here for it π
I hate it when morons try to pull one over on you.
Work emailed me yesterday claiming they didn't process my final pay becasuse I still had their laptop and phone. I already told them I would be home Tuesday so they could come get it.
There is no final pay because they gave me annual leave in advance. So I asked them in the email I sent back, to clarify how much the final pay is for.
They dodged the question entirely and just asked again when I'm home.
Motherfuckers, how dumb or dishonest do you think I am? Did you really think I wouldn't return your stuff becasuse there is no final pay?
Fucking wankers.
