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Iโm so sorry. Maybe the aged care forums will have some tips ๐ https://www.agingcare.com/topics/212/refusing-care/questions
Edit: Or the Victorian Palliative Care Advice Service https://www.pcas.org.au/
And I heard utis in elderly can really set them off? But yeah. I think the trip was stressful and people feel more comfortable to lash out at their caregivers
Please care for yourself too. Even without the aggro and criticism at a certain point the level of expectations alone becomes abusive/dominates your life
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/depression-while-being-a-primary-caregiver-138183.htm
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/bad-caregiver-burnout-for-an-elderly-parent-who-refuses-any-outside-help-sassing-them-into-this-is-n-498268.htm
oh gawd so much of those last 2 links and comments resonates.
That is a dark rabbit hole (and i was reluctant to look up things like that) but thank you kindly for sharing them.
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