Thanks, I really appreciate this.
melbaboutown
I might do that, thanks
It's cool, I'm just a bit inconsolable
I've tried that one repeatedly. It made me mildly sleepy for a few weeks initially then pooped out, now it does nothing. I'm possibly a lost cause.
Soft toys are too light. They feel cold and dead.
I'm sorry to go on but I loved my cat like a child and losing her has been the straw that broke the camels back.
Mental health, grieving
I feel so sad and scared all of the time. There has been talk of antidepressants but I've tried so many and none of them have worked. They just cause intolerable side effects with no benefit and then severely destabilize me when I have to come off them. So I'm stuck like this. Treatment resistant.
I wrap Melbcat's urn in a blanket burrito and hold it close at night to feel like she's still there. It's something but not really helping fully. It's only been 21 days which both looks like so long but feels like nothing. I still can't believe she's gone.
The people around me are supportive but have limited availability and have their own lives which are very separate from mine. Other old friends have drifted. Other people move on from your grief a lot faster than you do. And social thinning is very real as an adult.
I have a toolbox but despite male family having those skills I taught basic repairs to myself :(
Nobody taught me to power tool :(
I dunno. There’s definitely stuff I had to teach myself and is highly iffy
And stuff I didn’t cover for reasons
They did when I got really sick. They didn’t say the reason but after my performance dipped and I told them of my health suddenly my contract wasn’t renewed.
This only works at home… but sometimes if I’m in a bad way and stressing with the wait times I lie in bed with the phone on my pillow and have it on speakerphone, so I can just kind of rest and doze without fully dropping off. When they speak it can snap you out of it to answer.
Or you can speakerphone while doing something else like cleaning or dishes
That is the worst… I got a mix of that, some things I had to help with growing up (so I learned a few no frills meals, cleaning and to run a washing machine) but the vast majority of adult skills I had to teach myself after leaving home. I’m still learning them and a lot are incomplete even at my current age.
There’s Mom How Do I and Dad How Do I
https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCVo2ns_7YaVzFYVX5JgV_uQ
https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCNepEAWZH0TBu7dkxIbluDw
I will also answer any particular questions if I can.
Ps. Seriously consider accessing somewhere that does financial counselling, because I got none of that and had to learn about money management from influencers, avoided debt so hard I never built up a good credit score, and never got taught how to manage a super. Also definitely get help learning how to do taxes.
Edit: I also recommend you find the lever to turn the mains water supply off, same for the gas. If either leaks you can just cut the flow. Keep a bill for each handy so the faults number is right there. And locate the electrical switchboard for your house.
And when you get photo id? Update it before it expires. Make sure you have your birth certificate and passport when you move out.
Thanks, I’ll have to find one I feel comfortable with. There’s been a lot happening already but losing Melbcat has really undone me