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Using the term "NoFap" in the title is a bit like putting "AI" in there - it pretty much guarantees zero productive conversation in the comments and instead acts as a bug light for certain people to just chime in with their personal views on that one thing.
I don't even bother writing a response to the actual question because I don't want to spend the rest of the day defending views I don't even hold.
You ll just be alot more horny and you will have more sexual daydreams. The rest normalizes, but keep in mind sex is healthy for the body in general.
Personally, I think "NoFap" is bro-science with little basis in anything even remotely factual.
As someone who was single (and a virgin, to apply a social construct) well into my 30s, I can totally relate to the emotional burden that loneliness, sexual frustration, social isolation, and all of the self-negative thoughts that come from feeling broken and unlovable. I get it, I really do!
To say that "it sucks" is an understatement, and I truly understand how feeling those kinds of feelings can make some "incel" guys lash out and be angry at themselves, women, or society at large. That's not an attempt to excuse bad behavior, of course, but only to say that I understand the emotional context that too often breeds it.
I genuinely believe that loneliness really is an epidemic, for men and women alike, in both friendship and romance, and when you combine that with a modern political climate that seeks profit and power from fostering culture wars and driving wedges between regular people, it's not hard to understand how we have become conditioned to hate ourselves and each other.
Undoubtedly, there is a serious problem with modern culture and proprietary app-driven socialization.
But here's the key point: I really don't think depriving yourself of sexual pleasure is going to make you less lonely, less isolated, less self-negative, or even more motivated to meet others.
Self-control can be a virtue, sure. There is certainly value in being able to resist instant gratification and controlling one's urges...
But choosing to live a "life of NoFap" isn't going to do anything to address the core reasons why you feel lonely or isolated in the first place. All you are really doing, in my view, is kicking yourself while you're down--punishing yourself for being lonely, when you should instead be practicing self-care.
Companionship, romance, and sex are different things, crucially. Ideally we would have them all, but you can have one without the others. So, with that in mind, why on Earth should a person deprive themselves of sexual pleasure just because they are lacking in romance or companionship?
The unspoken and unappreciated truth is that you don't, and shouldn't, need to be in a relationship to have a satisfying "sex life". And likewise, people who aren't in a relationship shouldn't feel the need to deprive themselves of sexual pleasure due to some false idea that somehow being sexually frustrated will make you more motivated, attractive and likable.
If you really want to build relationships and have sex, start touching grass, getting to know people, and going out on dates. Shower, shave, wear clean clothes and deodorant, brush up on current events and take up some hobbies. Don't just look for "girlfriends", make friends and grow your social circle in general. If you have to ignore the superficial bullshit dating apps and meet people in other ways, then good, more power to you. But that's really all it takes.
Maybe when you turn 50.
Sounds like a categorically terrible idea. Is there any ackshuall proof having 1 orgasm per day (regardless of the outlet or method) is harmful in any measurable/quantifiable way besides reducing desperation for sex?
Actually helps prevent prostate cancer in men, idk about women's hard data physical effects.
I sincerely dont and cant understand no-fap outside of an addiction 12-steps/abstinence style vantage point.
It's extremely dumb and only ever pushed by grifters, usually manosphere type losers.
Like, i dont get how they (presumuably) view having an orgasm-via-penis-in-vagina as biologically distinct from orgasm-via-masturbation. I dont think your body truly knows the difference in a mechanical sense.
Mechanical isn't the only part being played. There's hormones too. I'm positive there's differences there depending on alone or with someone. Whether or not that has any health implications I've no idea.
Yeah it would basically be an anti addiction approach for me. Addiction runs in my family and we get addicted to everything remotely pleasurable. So I've spent my whole life saying no to alcohol & drugs & cigarettes, and since I cant find a suitable companion I have to say no to orgasms too 🤷🏼♀️ For me it feels empowering.
I just saw several posts the last 2 days of a study that showed that if you don't cum enough, your sperm becomes a bunch of dumb dumbs. Yes, I used scientific lingo for that, I'm sorry.
I know it's not what you asked, OP, but NoFap is a purity cult. Cross reference the mods from r/nofap and you'll find heavy correlation with religious sub's.
Despite claims for helping porn/sex addicts, their intent is to get their foot in the door.
If you want to live a life of NoFap for reasons you decide for yourself, fine, but don't so it to gain any of the benefits those twats claim.
Worst case scenario is you get prostate cancer.
My apologizing for not understanding that it's a cult. All I know is what it means to me is "making a personal decision to refrain from masturbation because I feel energetically stronger when I save that energy for [whatever/whoever]."
If you're making a decision for yourself, because you feel better for not doing something, where the alternative is to do it out of habit or some form of compulsion that makes you feel bad or like it's a waste of energy, then you definitely don't need strangers on the internet telling you anything about it (doubly so if it doesn't hurt anyone.)
You do you, if you feel energetically stronger, that's almost certainly due to your personality.
Research has been done to discern whether athletes should refrain from sex before sports. The results showed that there was no meaningful performance difference in clarity, concentration, or energy levels.
And by the sounds of the olympics, good luck getting the athletes from around the world that you put in one place to stop finding other athletes attractive XD
I'd imagine this is how you turn yourself into a mass killer.
Qu'est-ce que c'est ?
Fa fa fa fa
Your balls will explode!
I'm a woman.
In that case, your balls probably won't explode then.
You’ll grow balls and then they’ll explode!
That's fatal.
Chesticles will explode
I'm in it, last relationship was 17 years or so ago
I mean it ain't all bad. So long as you don't mind the actual loneliness, the physical touch gets easy to forget.
But I dunno if I'd recommend this to anyone tbh
Oh edit because I didn't address your question. No it doesn't go away, but it gets easier to ignore over time. Also I'm on 1500mg oh lithium so that may impact things.
You’re asking a bunch of chronically online lemmy nerds what they think of masturbation. So if you’re looking for an impartial response then you’ve come to the wrong place.
🤣 You're not wrong.
I don't understand the idea of not fapping.
I am guessing the "nofap" idea comes from religion. Amazing how a god is so obsessed with sex. Makes one wonder if it is just men trying to control a natural drive in order to control others.
While the reason for someone to follow "nofap" varies from person to person. It does not come from religion. It is mainly a movement to help fight porn addiction.
Balls = Blue
I'm amused by all the people here who don't realize I'm a woman. I even made a new account in a new instance with a new username that is undeniably female. I thought surely people would finally stop calling me "dude" and "bro" and talking about my non-existent balls 🤣
I don't think we have a term specifically for women that would equal "blue balls..." 🤔 We should, tho.
I can only guess anger, depression and extreme irritability. Especially in such a sexually charged culture.
One of the side effects is compulsive posting on 4chan /pol