It does now, but please be aware that this is a niche NSFW adult kink community!
Unfortunately I didn't mean for the creation of this community to be posted to !newcommunities@lemmy.world, but a box was automatically checked when I created a new piefed community.
I really apologize for the possibility of inadvertently exposing people to NSFW/kink stuff that they may not want to see.
Personally, I think "NoFap" is bro-science with little basis in anything even remotely factual.
As someone who was single (and a virgin, to apply a social construct) well into my 30s, I can totally relate to the emotional burden that loneliness, sexual frustration, social isolation, and all of the self-negative thoughts that come from feeling broken and unlovable. I get it, I really do!
To say that "it sucks" is an understatement, and I truly understand how feeling those kinds of feelings can make some "incel" guys lash out and be angry at themselves, women, or society at large. That's not an attempt to excuse bad behavior, of course, but only to say that I understand the emotional context that too often breeds it.
I genuinely believe that loneliness really is an epidemic, for men and women alike, in both friendship and romance, and when you combine that with a modern political climate that seeks profit and power from fostering culture wars and driving wedges between regular people, it's not hard to understand how we have become conditioned to hate ourselves and each other.
Undoubtedly, there is a serious problem with modern culture and proprietary app-driven socialization.
But here's the key point: I really don't think depriving yourself of sexual pleasure is going to make you less lonely, less isolated, less self-negative, or even more motivated to meet others.
Self-control can be a virtue, sure. There is certainly value in being able to resist instant gratification and controlling one's urges...
But choosing to live a "life of NoFap" isn't going to do anything to address the core reasons why you feel lonely or isolated in the first place. All you are really doing, in my view, is kicking yourself while you're down--punishing yourself for being lonely, when you should instead be practicing self-care.
Companionship, romance, and sex are different things, crucially. Ideally we would have them all, but you can have one without the others. So, with that in mind, why on Earth should a person deprive themselves of sexual pleasure just because they are lacking in romance or companionship?
The unspoken and unappreciated truth is that you don't, and shouldn't, need to be in a relationship to have a satisfying "sex life". And likewise, people who aren't in a relationship shouldn't feel the need to deprive themselves of sexual pleasure due to some false idea that somehow being sexually frustrated will make you more motivated, attractive and likable.
If you really want to build relationships and have sex, start touching grass, getting to know people, and going out on dates. Shower, shave, wear clean clothes and deodorant, brush up on current events and take up some hobbies. Don't just look for "girlfriends", make friends and grow your social circle in general. If you have to ignore the superficial bullshit dating apps and meet people in other ways, then good, more power to you. But that's really all it takes.