Good night everyone
sweet dreams ๐
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Such a great night. Here's some pics.
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If you're ever in Point Cook give this bar a go. It's called Lovesick Bar. 5/5 yum yums.
I demand cocktail reviews please!
Honestly they were all great. We tried most of their signature drinks. Lovesick sour, Sex & candy, Part time lover, Chilli Martini, Spring blossom, another one that I don't know the name of.
Love the names!! Glad to hear you've had a great night!
that looks really yum
def am going to try this place ๐
It was fantastic.
Poor little chilli slice (on the squid?). All by its lonesome.
I wonder who got it.
They all got picked off and not by me.
The vibes look immaculate
There may have been more drinks and food and I may have forgotten to take pics beforehand. Oops.
Some of my brain: "But what if you die?" The rest of my brain: "BUT WHAT IF YOU DON'T?"
Have you been bit by a vampire?
Mental health, grieving
I feel so sad and scared all of the time. There has been talk of antidepressants but I've tried so many and none of them have worked. They just cause intolerable side effects with no benefit and then severely destabilize me when I have to come off them. So I'm stuck like this. Treatment resistant.
I wrap Melbcat's urn in a blanket burrito and hold it close at night to feel like she's still there. It's something but not really helping fully. It's only been 21 days which both looks like so long but feels like nothing. I still can't believe she's gone.
The people around me are supportive but have limited availability and have their own lives which are very separate from mine. Other old friends have drifted. Other people move on from your grief a lot faster than you do. And social thinning is very real as an adult.
so many hugs
can you ask your doctor if he knows any real life support groups
and of course there are support groups on the internet, we are here too
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I might do that, thanks
There's a number of pet bereavement services out there. I can't name any specific ones but I'd query https://grief.org.au/ for recommendations.
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In the past I was very adverse to medication due to side effects, till I found a Dr that was willing to work with my concerns and we found a non-SSRI med that didnโt have the side effects I was worried about (Agomelatine/ Valdoxan). It may be worth broaching the topic with your GP to explore options.
I also wonder if a commissioned soft toy of Melbcat would be comforting. It may also be safer than her Urn to sleep with. ๐ค
You are doing so well working through this grief. The first month is the hardest. Numbness seeps in a bit like a scab.
I lost my dog a couple of years ago.
For me the first year was a year of mourning, but it gets easier to remember all the good times, and how much they were loved. I have developed meaningful rituals on his birthday and anniversary of passing. He continues to be a part of my life as I continue to move on.spoiler
**it was the hardest thing to bear. If I hadnโt have been in a relationship with someone else acting as a tether at the time, Iโm not sure Iโd still be here.
I hope you gentle recovery and I hope this somewhat helps or consoles you. ๐ค
I've tried that one repeatedly. It made me mildly sleepy for a few weeks initially then pooped out, now it does nothing. I'm possibly a lost cause.
Soft toys are too light. They feel cold and dead.
I'm sorry to go on but I loved my cat like a child and losing her has been the straw that broke the camels back.
Completely understandable. No need to be sorry. ๐ซ
Iโm sorry for the unsolicited advice. I only wish there was some way to help. Which I also know is impossible.
It's cool, I'm just a bit inconsolable
I ache all over from yesterday's trip
hopefully some rest will help
So glad it's just an ache and nothing super serious. Take some rest and look after yourself - you look after all of us so well!
Thanks.
I'm fine, just kinda pulled muscles and got bumped, practically no bruising
took the day easy, went to the movie and then ate out,
tomorrow back to exercise and doing things ๐๐๐
I really must go to bed.
Did you love the movie?
Sleep well and rest easy!
Just overheard a shopkeeper deny a customer a return because her store had a certain limit for the day and they weren't able to do returns over that limit. When the customer had left, I queried it because what if the item was faulty and she said "faulty is different" (obviously because they legally have to), but still... that doesn't sit right at all.
That sounds fishy to me. Does the receipt say there's a limit on returns for each day? Usually it's pretty black and white, can return for change of mind in X days from purchase.
What if they just came back the next day and did the return then?
Pretty sure I'd argue myself blue if I was denied a return because I wasn't early enough. Part of me wonders if it's self imposed KPI to make her store look better. The lady wanting the return had purchased online and the online store does not offer free returns, you have to pay postage.
It's not ethical or nice, but sadly not illegal. Like you said, only illegal if it's faulty. Legal to deny a "change of mind refund" within reason.
Even my local Woolies has changed their refund policy to be store credit instead of a refund of money.
I totally get places doing store credit instead of $$ for change of mind returns, people definitely try and take advantage, but not being able to return something because you weren't there early enough really bothers me. Totally not the shopkeepers fault and I made it clear I wasn't questioning her, but the company policy.
Finished the PHM audiobook. Iโm gonna need to bring tissues when watching the film.
definitely ๐ญ
I think I'm going to crack a cider
Thanks to everyone listening yesterday.
Spoke to p's last night. A bit of the email advice got through but being realistic I think it helped only very little.
As long there are some supplement going in that's best I can hope for. Tone wasn't great w/ ol' boy (usually the opposite on when on trips), and was very easy to pick more mental decline w/ ol' girl. Doesn't take long with little food that's for sure. Gonna have to wait and see the damage with that.
Anyway brighter news.
Made it down the bellarine last night. Before leaving though the tradies next door had their radio up quite loud w/ house. I'd left the speakers from the partay outside (which are louder) so started blaring heavy drumandbass. They switched their playlist to DnB too lol so it was like a multi residence un-beatmatched rave for a few hours.
Fucking hell, had a car run into the bike this morning. Unc was stopped right in front of the pedestrian crossing, car in front of him takes off and he stays there, so it looks like he's waiting for me to cross. I had a feeling that wasn't the case but how can you tell?
I go to cross and that's when he takes off, running into the wheel of the bike. I was fine and the bike's alright, front wheel might be a bit out of whack so I'm dropping it off at the bike store for a service on the way home.
I go up to his window and yell and swear at him a bit, he was probably on his phone and not looking. I had just pumped the tyres up and the bike was rolling so well, didn't even get a whole ride out of it.
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I need something to go with all the soup, so I made a tray of cheesymite scrolls.
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I have procured a vanilla slice and some sushi. Special lunch (for a work day) achieved
Had the ecocardiogram and the guy that did it said he didn't see any issues.
Wearing this holter thing now to measure my heart rate for 24 hours.
Also I have a feeling work is going to let me go because of this. Maybe I shouldn't have told them the truth.
Urgh.
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