Something that's always good to see is people that were at the venue last week for one reason or another become punters at trivia the next week. It's happened twice so far and I saw the new group there tonight
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Good night everyone
sweet dreams π
Please let it be known that today's squat challenge was completed while wearing a dress and cooking dinner. Blows the whole "I have no time" argument...
Also.
Beeeeech swim
that's a lovely beach π
all the UnKAOS done, fish tank clean, telly watched, some LPs listened to, food for 2 dinners cooked and a little garden work too
I'm so glad I managed to get my Autism diagnosis a few years ago, and have learnt so many things about myself in the process. It made it so much easier to handle a work situation today with the office building incorrectly cranking the heating despite an already warm day, and armed with the knowledge that my neurodiversity includes not being able to regulate temperature well, I was able to self-advocate and used sick leave to travel home before I was feeling too unwell. I may still have a migraine depending on how I bounce back, but it will hopefully be less severe than if I had remained in the office the full day.
So strange to me that several managers, executives, and a health and safety officer all commented about the high temps in the office, and no one did anything about it. Similar thing on the tram home; air conditioned, but all the windows were open and people just looked at me strangely when I closed the ones at my seat. I just don't understand people sometimes.
Nicely done on recognising the environment wasn't working for you and heading home - also thank you for bringing this to my attention! I find myself having panic attacks when I overheat but never clicked it was due to my neurodivergency!
Very welcome!
lips and tongue burning
I just licked the spoon after making banana coconut ice treats
ingredients were coconut cream, bananas, vanilla essence and sugar
I think it's sulphites in the coconut
Ok guys, I'm about to tell you a story. Maybe a bit of tmi but I don't care because I'm an open book and I'm honest. During my 20s I was working, always on my feet, fit healthy 54 kgs.
Then while I was pregnant at 29 I weighed in at over 80 kgs plus. I say plus because I couldn't see the scales because of my stomach. I was continually hungry. There was no off button.
Anyway, I had my baby. She was 2.7 kgs so the fat was all me. Then during my 30s I got down to 70 kgs just from ordinary living. Then last year things changed.
I stepped on the scale and I'm at my heaviest (apart from pregnancy) at 78 kgs. Shit how did I get to this? I'm not lazy nor sluggish. Well 2 things really. 1. I stopped walking my daughter to school once she started high school. That's 30 minutes a day that I no longer do. 2. I fucking loved snacking while watching the telly when everyone went to bed.
My turning point was if I don't do something soon perimenopause is gonna kick my arse. I refuse to do that. What am I gonna do?
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Stop snacking at night. If I'm hungry I'll eat the cucumbers, celery or fruit. I'll go to bed before the hungry happens.
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Walk to the shops with my backpack and pick up and carry my dinner home or take my dog for more walks with weights in my backpack.
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Start strength training. This was suggested to me by my husband who pointed out just a few reps encourages weightloss when I'm at rest.
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Continue to eat what I want just a little less of the occasional foods.
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Buy a walking pad and actually use it. If I don't feel like it I still get on and see where it goes. Once I'm on I usually do 30 minutes anyway.
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I try to aim for half my plate being veg, a quarter of protein and a quarter of carbs with some fat sprinkled in there.
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If I'm gonna have something unhealthy then I make sure to eat healthy the rest of the day. I DO NOT DENY MYSELF ANYTHING.
I'm down to 72 kgs. My aim is 60 kgs by the time I'm 50 (June next year). It's slow but I've barely changed anything. My weight is going down, my strength is going up, my stamina is going up, my smoking is going down.
I wrote this not for congratulations. I wrote this to show you are not alone. I wrote this to show you do not need to go hard. I especially wrote this for anyone who is struggling, don't know where to start or thinks it's too hard. I have family and friends who are really encouraging. Not everyone has that so I want to be your person who encourages and celebrates the wins. AMA.
I think I just wrote an essay.
Thankyou for telling this to us. You sound like you've got your goals in good order. I've been on my own fitness journey for the last (almost year?) I seem to recall when this daily thread first started up I was doing a daily fitness post. I stopped at one point due to ex/relationship issues and problems with time and life balance. I've started again due to the fitness chat channel that was started in one discord server I'm in. Everyone gradually fell out until it was just me and this other woman living near Atlanta Georgia. We basically are the weight thread now lol, with us at opposite ends of the world and opposite day/night. We do a weekly weigh-in where we post our gains or losses and talk about the hows and whys. We had all sorts of odd things in common and we just clicked. We're both 50+ ladies working heavy manual jobs looking to pursue better fitness, with weight loss as a bonus. We're both already physically active and strong but overweight and menopausal, which has it's own challenges. We've tried different things and shared our progress and really spurred each other on. I've managed to build muscle and lose 8kgs since I started. I spend some spare time looking for exercises which which can be done anywhere, any time, are easy for strong hefty women to do and won't trash my joints (my knees and wrists are buggered, and a lot of these skinny little things buzzing around on social media have no idea what it's like for a 90+kg woman with dicky knees and a bodgy back trying to exercise, and it shows in their exercises). I've been working on a routine that suits me and basically does the job and makes me feel good. It's a work in progress, as are we all! Good on you for identifying potential for positive change!
Yeah. I could do without the hot flushes and the random achy body parts. I guess we're all on the same leaky boat.
Thanks for sharing. Sounds like me (without the baby). I have started taking it seriously again this year to get to mid 60s this year. Started well but been sick and inflamed and swollen so the few kgs I lost have come back. Was feeling really down about it but this really helped. πͺπ»π
Looks like a few of us ladies need to be each other's cheer squads. β€οΈ
This is great advice and I feel like Iβm in this category too. A lot of health and fitness info is so harsh - eat lettuce and do sweaty workouts 5 times a weeks. Iβm uninterested in anyone yelling at me in boot camp or never eating a carb again. I would resent it and it be miserable. I agree sustainability is key. Iβve lost 2.5kg since January. That might seem like slow progress but Iβm aiming to loose 8 to get to my βregularβ weight, so I reckon thatβs ok. I still eat pasta and chocolate. Just less. Iβm also thinking of getting a walking pad as the next step, but was worried about motivation. But Iβll try.
This is beautiful and perfect. The things I hate the most are hearing someone say
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For dinner I eat grilled fish or chicken with a salad. bitch please. Do you eat that every night because if you do I'm gonna throw the salt & pepper shakers at you
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If you feel like ice cream just swap it for low fat yogurt and fruit. It's not the same. Stop it.
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You can eat chocolate. Make sure it's 70% dark chocolate and have 2 squares. Who the fuck does that. I'm eating half of the biggest block I can find and then I'm gonna eat the rest the next day.
Good luck to anyone who does this because I sure can't.
Fully endorse this plan of attack. Being all martyrdom & misery does NOT help. It's not a competition.
You're absolutely right.
This sounds a lot like me. Hopefully in the future I'll have some success of my own to share too. I've always struggled with weight, but the peri-menopause hormal changes have really heaped on extra struggle in the last few years which has been a bit discouraging.
Thanks for sharing your story, it does help π
last week my doc said I could lose 5 kg and see significant benefits, achievable goals π
and I still do at least 3 big walks/hikes a week down the rough beach
I have the vegetarian meal replacement stuff, I just need to get my brain into gear to do that
I hope my post inspires you as you do for me and you continue doing what you need to do to better yourself everyday.
I'm so tired π£
I would imagine you are. π«
Take some time out. Wait until you get your allergies sorted then reassess. One step at a time.

Gremlin.
Teeeeny Gremlin!! π
aww
what an angel π₯Ήπ₯°
And then they bite you in the bum and make you second guess everything
they do ...lol
Yes fuck yes it works.

And yes found mario kart. Was in the thing the whole time. Now if anyone challenges me on rainbow road I will take the shortcut but it won't work.
I just need to find the hand thingies.
My day is made!
Fiddlesticks, my glands have puffed up and are all scratchy. I hope I recover for the meetup, and my Sunday event with my immuno-comprimised friend.
You will recover, we demand it
Rest and water for you, sir!
my goal today is basic UnKAOS and watch some telly
The IT guy must be on leave and there are still programs I need on my work computer. Things can wait I guess, it's not like people were chasing up the leads I create anyway
I've finished downloading the most urgent iCloud photos and videos for now. Saving your stuff locally to have a backup outside the cloud seems to have deliberately been made to suck.
spoiler
My Windows computer is full because of Win 11 bloating (which for some people going over a certain percent of storage wiped their files) so I couldn't do it there and use the app. Using a Mac you still can't download more than 1000 files at once so I selected them manually and downloaded in batches of 50-300ish photos at a time.
And that's only for the ones of Melbcat because I don't want Apple to randomly lock access to them before they can be backed up. I'm not sure how it would go on Linux, maybe the same... no idea if there would be any incompatibilities but that old computer could be a good storage place. Bonus if I take out the wifi dongle and unplug the ethernet cable these companies literally can't access my stuff on there to mess with it. There's so much still to do but right now I just need to pull my finger out for the ones of baby girl.
I struggle so badly with the memory and organisation aspects of keeping things backed up (to the point I've lost entire hard drives worth of stuff repeatedly before cloud services and still haven't finished the work now) but I don't like how your own stuff is low key kept hostage, scanned for anything potentially offensive with notoriously inaccurate AI, and they have a million little ways to make it tricky or tedious to get your own files back. I won't even get into how Microsoft yoinked my files off my computer without consent, hid the option to back up to drive, and tried to extort money for more cloud storage.
I'm genuinely considering returning to a digital camera with SD cards and physical storage but fear dropping, loss, or moisture/electrical damage. Or head failure.
I just got back from my morning stroll, the fog burned off while I was out and it very quickly went from pleasant to a bit too hot in the sun. I need a cool down break before I can tackle bringing in yesterday's washing from the line.
I've been thinking overnight about how to plan and track my exercise goals, and think I've come up with a system that should work without triggering demand avoidance or all-or-nothing thinking that has led to failure in the past. It's based on a system that's been working well for me in budgeting, cleaning and gardening, areas I've also had similar issues keeping to a plan long term.
The basic system is to have two levels of goals, with overall success tracked weekly (well, every 8 days because that's my work cycle, but week is easier to say!). The lowest 'pass' level is basically a participation trophy. It will have a steps goal each day that is fairly easily achievable, plus making an attempt at the strength training routine three times a week - but even if I just do one set and then stop it will be a pass. The higher 'distinction' level will be to do the strength routines fully and to reach a higher level of steps/cardio on three days.
The way I'm going to track the progress is using a program called Beeminder which tracks ongoing goals. Basically I will start with one week's buffer, which is maintained every week I 'pass' or another week's grace can be added if I get a 'distinction', with a maximum of two weeks buffer allowed. Which means there is a lot of room for failure as long as it is not consistent, and not too much pressure to achieve the higher level constantly - I need it to feel like an achievement I want to work towards, not something I have to achieve.
I think I'll also do some sort of ongoing chart with stickers too, so I can see progress. Gold and silver stars each week or something like that.
Start any strength training light so you're not too knackered. I'll make going back to it much easier.
That's the plan. I'm starting with some basic bodyweight exercises just to get moving, then I'll start to add in some weights and things over time. Although I have a lot of bodyweight, so everything I do technically involves a fairly high weight loading to start with!
I've had a tendency to over do things when I'm starting out and then burnout and lose interest (with everything, not just exercise). I've learned I need to focus on success as being regularly engaged, not on any specific results. "It's a marathon not a sprint". Getting the pace right is the most important goal.
Do you have a program? The hybrid callisthenics website has a gentle beginner body weight routine that I used for post surgery rehab.
Or you could get a smart watch and it does all the tracking for you and gives you rewards. It doesn't have to be top of the range. The basic watches do it.
My watch is what gets me motivated. It congratulates me for moving.
I've ordered a cheap Samsung one that will track steps for me. I've used the trackers in the past and found the way they are programmed to give rewards and things doesn't really work well for me, so I'm just going to use the data for my own system. Part of my neurodivergence is that most reward/punishment type systems really don't work for me, which is unfortunate as thats what most systems and programs work on!