im so burnt out, so much bad stuff is happening at once and instead of that being reason for me to try to relax i just have too much stuff to do now
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My therapist wants me to watch and apply the movie A Beautiful Mind. From what she says, it sounds like I'm supposed to learn some miraculous mental technique that would allow me to not be troubled by my hallucinations anymore. Am I misunderstanding, and/or am I wrong for thinking that's a ridiculous thing? She points out that the voices come from my head, therefore I should be able to use my head to stop them? Like, there's a dysfunction going on? I don't actually have control over them? Am I totally wrong here?
no you're right. most talk therapy is for neurotypicals who just need a little brainwashing to accept being slaves to capital. most therapists seem to not know wtf to do for anyone else
Yeah. Thankfully mine seems to understand why I have such a hard time working and hasn't been trying to urge me to keep searching for and/or working at soul-crushing jobs. Or at least jobs that crush my soul. There are people who genuinely enjoy cleaning, but a combination of perfectionism and psychosis made it hell for me.
Therapists are lazy AF. They tell you any old nonsense just to keep getting their paycheque.
Yeah... I keep wanting to think she's a Good Therapist, but sometimes I really wonder...
I truly stand by my belief that there is no such thing as a good therapist.
My therapist wants me to watch and apply the movie A Beautiful Mind.
No matter which movie, it's an absolute shit thing to suggest watching movies as a therapy method. Is this person actually a therapist or are they just dressing up as one? You can of course watch the movie, but like... that's not a therapy approach. I honestly don't know if you can "use your head to stop the voices", I'm no expert on the topic. Maybe you can consult some reading on your condition? Maybe there's other approaches that could help you.
Wishing you all the best sweetie 
I have received a text message and an email telling me I have a meeting, both are telling me about the same meeting but they are giving me addresses for that meeting about 1 hour by train away from each other.
I'm such a gullible fool. I shouldn't trust myself to trust people.
Oh no sweetie, I'm so sorry 
Are you okay? Did anything bad happen?
Someone I thought I knew well, turns out they're actually pretty damn reactionary about some things.
I'll be fine. I just wish I'd caught on sooner.
Shit. I understand the feeling, this hurts a lot. Don't blame yourself, sweetie, and remember that people do a lot to hide their reactionary tendencies and views. It's not on you that you didn't catch it <3
The bloody NHS yet again. I am so sick of it. Last year I was told they'd send me an appointment with the neurologist. Yesterday i received an accusatory letter telling me I'd missed my appointment and they wouldn't send me another one. But I never even received any letter telling me I had an appointment in the first place. I am so tired of this absolute shambles. Trying to keep on top of this nonsense is a full time job.
What the...nevermind, I should know by now that this is what the NHS does to people. I'm so sorry, love, is there really nothing you can do now?
I've sent an email to the appointments people, explaining that I never received the letter and that I do still need an appointment. I will see what they say. Tbh I don't hold out much hope of the neurologist actually helping me, but I need to be in active treatment to help my benefit appeal.
Rolled my ankle at work last Monday and have been cooped up in my apartment basically ever since. I've gotten a bit of food help from friends and I'm grateful. I did make the mistake of ordering the bare minimum for a grocery delivery which cost me $20 just for $50 worth of food. I think next time I'm gonna have to bite the bullet and get a few weeks worth and hope for the best.
I'm off of my foot for 4-6 weeks for recovery but I gotta go back to work on Wednesday(light duty). I was hoping for an extra week but I can't go much longer without a pay check. It sucks.
I did put a post up on the mutual aid comm and also on a Lefty discord group for help with rent but nothing came from it. I think I'll be fine but it's gonna be close.
For now I'm just taking it one day at a time. Lately my foot has been hurting bad and really stiff in the morning so I'm starting to wonder if I have nerve damage. I first started noticing random shots of pain at the base of my foot but now I almost have to do this painful foot wake up routine in the morning. After, it's not as bad but it's still painful. I really hope it's not lasting damage if there is any.
They didn't give me any kind of pain meds so I'm been relying on weed, some kratom that some friends gave me, and probably too much beer. I need to try to cut back again.
My spirits have been overall decent during this shit at least. I'm actually surprised I haven't cried over it at all.
On a weirdly better note, I got kicked out of my metal project. They said they just wanted to focus on a 3-piece with just instruments for now but I suspect it was a decision mostly by the bassist. My vocals don't match what they wanna do and they aren't going the direction that I was hoping for so in the end, it's ok. But I was also starting to work on a punk project anyway and during all this, I found a bassist, guitarist, and I think I found a drummer that is interested. The guitarist is an anarchist-coded friend I met last year and we've talked a lot about starting something. Plus his garage is equipped for sound and recording so it's a plus. The bassist comes from a folk background but they've even said they have been practicing some punk stuff and it's easy. Guitarist is an Oi punk oldhead, and the drummer plays some ska stuff and other punk adjacent stuff. This might be a blessing in disguise because I wanted to contribute to our local punk scene but a bit later down the road.
Sorry for the wall of text. I haven't been as active on HB lately because I'm also organizing in my community again, in limited capacity though. But it's nice to get back to lefty education again.
Anyway love you all! 
Get well soon Roux! 
I'm sad to hear that your band didn't work out, but I'm happy to know that there's a new opportunity coming up for music. You deserve it, and I really hope this one works out in your favor.
Take care of yourself, and treat yourself with kindness and grace. Healing takes time, and while you may not be able to afford staying home longer, I hope that work itself won't be so taxing. Also, if you can afford to, ask a doctor about the pain in your foot and make sure it's nothing even more serious. Hang in there, and I'm also very happy to hear from you again 
Thanks for the kind words as always 🖤❤️. Ibgo in on Tuesday and am gonna ask them about the pain. I'm a little worried about it because it's actually getting worse.
I initially wanted to start a punk band and just play bass but I've also learned quite a bit of range in deathcore vocals and figured sure I'll do vocals. But now thst I can just focus on this punk project I think it will be a better fit for me. I can't really write metal lyrics but for some reason(lol), politically charged punk lyrics come pretty easy for me. I actually have like 3 songs written and one folksy song right now that I'm been practicing as an excuse to learn chords and how to sing while playing guitar.
I really hope this project takes off but I also hope my old band finds their sound.
but for some reason
Can't imagine what that reason might be 
Like I said before, I'd really love to hear what you get up to musically at some point, and I'm happy to hear you may finally get a chance to play (and sing!) politically charged punk. The folksy song sounds interesting too! Fingers crossed for the project, and I know you'll do great!
Be gentle with your ankle, and yes, go see the doctor asap. If it's nerve damage, it won't get better over time <3 be careful, okay? I'm also keeping my fingers crossed that someone will reply to your mutual aid request
If it's nerve damage, I donnno how I will go about even doing light duty at work. I'm trying to mentally navigate getting in and out of our work vans. I have a boot they gave me and I'll be wearing that. It helps a bit with stability but it's big and bulky and gets in the way when I have it on. I can drive with it but I have a hard time gauging how much I'm pushing the gas pedal. Part of my light duty will be riding as a passenger to help our new drivers so I'll be mostly sitting so that's good.
The good thing about doing this punk project is that I'm a Marxist with some AnCom tenancies and the rest are some other flavor of left. Well, I can't vouch for the drummer yet but when I put the post out that he responded to, I did say I'd like a drummer that is left-leaning politically. But what I'm trying to say is that if we are all on the same page and we all wanna do the same genre, I think it's already a good first step. The last band was a very mixed bag on music and politics.
SPEAKING OF FOOD, a fellow student of mine has informed me that they subsist of ramen, but it's okay because every breakfast they put a can of tuna in it.
On top of cancer, this education is gonna give people scurvy
I am honestly torn between laughing and crying at this, holy shit
I have put tabbouleh and seitan on wheat bread. I am serving wheat on wheat on wheat to myself.
I know you tried to make it sound bland, but if I could I'd try that wheat-wheat-wheat sandwich
Thanks, sadly the sheer glutenaity of this one might actually make you explode.
Unfortunately you are right. I can already feel my colon going on general strike over the suggestion
I love it when my brain randomly decides its going to forget what social skills are.
Oh see i dont have that problem because I just never learned social skills
I had the period pain from hell today. it was like being a teenager all over again. This is the first time in years I've had a period pain, I thought I was over all that. It was so awful I had no choice but to take painkillers, even though I've developed an allergy to them. I took an anti histamine with them so it wasn't so bad. I had to spend most of the day in bed. I hope this isn't going to be a regular occurrence.
As one currently suffering from menstrual cramps, I am silently suffering with you and will mentally hold your hand.
And it's been so long since I had a proper period, I made a nasty laundry mistake. I soaked some bloody clothes for 2 days then threw them in the laundry and they've made all my clothes stink of damp. 
Oh no 
I've been making more music and i really have y'all to thank for regaining the confidence to get back at it. I also started HRT today so lots goin on over here lmao
I am glad things are looking up for you, and I really enjoyed listening to your track! Keep up the good work sweetie, I'm proud of you
Thank you so much<3
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
tourette's discourse 
Oh man, you've seen it too? Some people just really shouldn't talk about a condition they don't understand, huh.
all I'm gonna say is there is one malicious party here and it is the BBC which decided to censor stuff about Palestine but not cut out the Disability-Induced Public Humiliation Moment
yea that was my opinion on it too
the discourse is really not great, just people straight up saying disabled people shouldn't be able to be visible in polite society, or people being racist, eugh 
And you are correct about the BBC being the malicious party.
I've never posted here before, so I'm hoping I'm not breaking any rules or acting in poor etiquette. I'm epileptic and some months back I was hospitalized with severe seizures, ever since then my memory has been utterly shit. It's embarrassing, forgetting basic things at work and around the house. More importantly, I don't feel totally present in my life now. My sense of time, from months to days, is screwed up. Seriously, sitting here, I can't tell you just what month I was hospitalized. A couple months ago or more than half a year ago? I've never had such bad seizures. I feel like it is so taxing on my wife who already has so much to deal with.
I'm not really sure why I'm typing this except that I guess I could use the support or some perspective. I feel such guilt and helplessness lately. My wife, family, and friends deserve better than me being so screwy and needy. But I know if the roles were reversed I'd do anything for them. I just hate feeling so helpless and stupid.
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With the recent incident of Tourettes being in people’s circles of talking, while IDK if the guy who did say the N-word apologized, but let’s say he did and has no actual hate.
It’s kind of disgusting how everyone is spreading around what would be a very embarrassing moment for someone as a smug gotcha “he said the funny word. Suck it, moralists!” like he doesn’t want to hide behind Tourettes, a tic put him in an embarrassing situation.
You’re literally acting like a south park joke.
I hate being lectured on how accommodations are a sign of weakness and too much for poor porky to provide, yet we spent the last 50 years bending over backwards for porky and shoving free money in his face and all of us doing everything for him. Still, none of them have been in the hiring mood since 2008 and see every applicant as a burden they need to avoid rather than just a part of doing business.
I couldn't agree more, this is exactly what it's like.
I just saw my campus on the news....
For conditions being so bad in the labs they're being linked to cancer.
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Thank you for thr new mega
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