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Was supposed to have an appointment 2 hours ago for depression... was so depressed that I didn't sleep for the night so I slept through the morning... so now I missed it... 🫠 (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 3 weeks ago by DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works to c/casualconversation@piefed.social
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I told my dad about the appointment a few times before and he didn't even seem to remember it to wake me up...

I hate my life...

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[–] ClownStatue@piefed.social 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

First of all, breathe. You missed an appointment. There are greater catastrophes in life! I’m sure a week doesn’t go by that most doctor’s offices have a handful of no-shows.

Second, you or your parents need to call the place and explain what happened. If they regularly deal with depression, I’m sure they’ve seen this before. The worst thing you can do is burry your head. Depression requires some kind of treatment. I’ve never met anyone who got a handle on it on their own. Places that worked with depression know what they’re dealing with, and want to help you. You just need to keep them in the loop.

Third, maybe see if your parents can talk to their insurance provider and see if there’s a depression counselor who can meet you over Zoom.

Finally, talk to your parents (anbd/or friends) about helping you with all the habits people in this thread are suggesting (like setting alarms and reminders). Habits a good in that they bring some structure to your life. That can help.

[–] BCOVertigo@piefed.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

I was going to give the same sentiment but you said it perfectly. The doctors aren't disappointed or angry, they're still rooting for you OP!

[–] Libb@piefed.social 5 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

I don't know how young people do things nowadays, and maybe you've already done it, but would I have missed an appointment, I would send a little mail as an apology. This may also help making it seem much less an issue (which it should not be, we all have missed an appointment here and there).

Also don't rely on other people to help you remember stuff. Use an alarm clock, or that phone you probably own.
My spouse and I try to remind the other whatever we have going on but we also both use our own alarms. Why? It helps to avoid ever having any bad feeling toward the other because of a missed whatever. Sure, the other may not reminded us but, first and foremost, it is still us who forgot about it ;)

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

To make it worse, I don't have a drivers license so I need my parents for transportation... so that's why I really depend on them. And nk public transit cuz that's too much anxiety and it takes twice as long and I don't wanna deal with that. Being trapped in a bus full of strangers that do drugs (I mean... this is philly) is terrifying.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 weeks ago

I haven't been to Philly, but I have to think that most people who do drugs and hang out on busses don't tend to keep bankers or doctors hours. You're going to run into a bunch of people going to work and getting around to their own appointments.

I invite other Philly residents to enlighten me if it's a special case of some sort.

[–] Libb@piefed.social 2 points 3 weeks ago

You may want to consider working on that, one small step at a time. You may not drive (my spouse and I don't own a car, and have not for the past 20 years) but you can work on your anxiety: we use public transit daily (and we're very shy and anxious people both her and I), it just took us a lot of patience (and attempts) to get used 'to be' in a bus or a tram, or whatever.

If you want things to change, you need to focus on those things you can change, even one small step at a time, because things won't change out of themselves, that's very unlikely. Sorry if that sounds a bit too much like some old fart advice... That's most likely what I'm ;)

[–] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 4 points 3 weeks ago

This is really disappointing for you. It's the vicious circle, because you're depressed you need an appointment but because you're depressed you miss the appointment leading to more depression. It's really rough.

Have you thought about posting in !mentalhealth@lemmy.world or !dadforaminute@lemmy.world for support? They're great places to be

[–] rimu@piefed.social 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

So at no point during those long hours awake did you think to set an alarm on your phone?

If you don't want to go to the appointment, don't blame your father for it.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago

I didn't really get into a habit of setting reminders/alarms so I sort of forgot about the concept of alarms

When I was in K-12 I got so used to my parents just waking me up...

so yeah...

I'm not really to be an adult, I wanna reverse time and re-do childhood tbh.

I'm mentally still reliving through all those traumatic moments through my childhood...

I still feel like a kid inside... its hard to grow when the toxic family envionment, which is why I have depression in the first place, keeps on smoldering me