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A community which focusses on improving yourself. This can be in many different ways - from improving physical health or appearance, to improving mental health, creating better habits, overcoming addictions, etc.

While material circumstances beyond our control do govern much of our daily lives, people do have agency and choices to make, whether that is as "simple" as disciplining yourself to not doomscroll, to as complex as recreating yourself to have many different hobbies and habits.

This is not a place where all we do is talk about improving "productivity" (in a workplace context) and similar terms and harmful lifestyles like "grindset". Self-improvement here is intended to make you a generally better and happier person, as well as a better communist, and any other roles you may have in your life.

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  1. Posts should be about self-improvement. This is obviously a wide category, and can range from advice, to finding resources, to self-posts about needing to improve in a certain area, or how you have improved, and many other things.

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Hello comrades and welcome to the first improvement megathread of December! bonfire The thread is one day late this time, sorry about that.


Some discussion ideas:

+ How was your week?

+ Do you have any plans for next week?

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ive always thought of myself as a lazy and unproductive person, but I realised that all I've done this year is work. I've constantly missed out on social gatherings with my friends because of work. I hate my job and in the new year i am desperate to find a new one.

But aside from that, in my free time I read, write, draw, I make YouTube videos, I'm a scout leader, I go rock climbing. I have a lot going on, and I'm really a very productive person. Ive just internalised the idea that I'm lazy

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 2 points 1 day ago

But speaking of looking for a new job, I applied for one a while ago and was told that I'm their 284th pick despite being massively overqualified. So that fucking sucks

I've been trying to enjoy the process, so even when a brand new bug just decided to appear out of nowhere and I had to spend over a day to diagnose and debug it, I still got to expand my horizons and become a better coder. But now I have a sinus infection so severe I can't fucking think straight holy shit

[–] moonlake@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 1 points 2 days ago

Stickied good luck.

[–] DragonBallZinn@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

Some disappointing news. That job I think I interviewed really well for? They turned me down. Did some “but we have so many great applicants” bullshit. This caused a relapse in my mental health over the weekend.

For anyone that was in this situation where you had a period of unemployability, not just unemployment. How did you get employers to trust you? Either way. I want to message some professors at this kind of reach university for some possible grad programs, what skills I might mesh well with and what I might be good at learning.

[–] moonlake@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago

Interesting podcasts I listened to this week:

Finding Mastery - Robert Waldinger - Interview with the director of the world’s longest-running scientific study (85 years) on happiness. Spoiler alert: turns out that hanging out is very important

How to Be a Better Human - best of 2025 - Check out this podcast if you are interested in a self-improvement podcast that isn't techbro bullshit. This is a "best of" episode where they look back on the best episodes of the year so it is a great place to start