It’s been a rough childhood with my family taking the route of learning through negative reinforcement, which did not feel consistent and sometimes the punishment was sometimes spaced far enough in time from when I did a bad thing that I didn’t know what I was being punished for sometimes. It also didn’t help that I got bullied a lot in school if I’m just not left alone, sometimes even initiated by staff too (not the teachers).

I’ve only found my childhood psychologist report recently that I was recommended to get tested for a condition that has long since been rolled into the autism spectrum.

The funny thing is my family didn’t want me to “catch” autism so I never got assessed.

Now I get to maybe be diagnosed AND work on the issues I have from what I used to think was all my fault, that I was lazy, etc etc.

Good fun! /s

[–] Riffraffintheroom@hexbear.net 4 points 2 weeks ago

Hey just because I have diagnosis does not mean that I’m not objectively annoying.

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

I hate "don't want to label them" with a vengeance of a thousand suns. It says so many fkd up things in those few words.

[–] MourningDove@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

This was 45 years of my life.

[–] y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 weeks ago

Lucky! I only got 28 years of needless suffering : (

[–] Devjavu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Wait, I'm supposed to think I'm not those things if I know about my condition?

[–] y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 2 weeks ago

You're supposed to think your condition is those things and that you aren't your condition, rather you are you (whomever that may be), affected by a condition.

For me there was a difference between "I'm all the shitty things I know myself to be" and then finding out about my definite ADHD / possible autism. My mindset changed from "I am the unmanageable problem" to "I have some problems that can be addressed ". Helped me quite a bit to have a little shift in paradigm.

[–] CaptainBlinky@lemmy.myserv.one 3 points 2 weeks ago

I'm almost 55 and I still think it was all my fault.

[–] technocrit@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

TBH people don't really "have" these things. People exhibit "symptoms" that are described as these things. For me it's the difference between "having a disorder" (helpless, exploitable) and "having a natural reaction to a dysfunctional society" (aware, empowered).

[–] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 2 weeks ago

Plenty of disorders are not helpful or rational reactions to a dysfunctional society. Natural, maybe, but that doesn't say much. It's one thing to be sad or angry about capitalism, another entirely to hear voices coming from the walls or think your loved ones have been replaced by body doubles.

[–] awful_neutral@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

Uh oh

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

My Diagnosis

~ Rachael Bloom, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend

[–] Petter1@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 2 weeks ago

Do all your countries still call it ADHD? I know it as ADHS (syndrome instead of disorder)

But to the topic, my son is 6 years old, and we won’t just ignore it 🫶🏻

[–] Soktopraegaeawayok@lemmy.world -1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

No, stupid. Everyone is different. Im still undiagnosed but I concluded -probably because I had good parents- that I have struggles like everyone else. Concluded that I was smart, just not in the regular way sometimes, and that my struggles are unique and my own personal battles. Im not a perfect adult now but no one is, but I am still pretty awesome.

Edit: I concluded its much better to have a positive attitude and the only one I can fix something about is my self

[–] Petter1@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 2 weeks ago

Well, I did so too, and it worked really well, until now, where I am a dad with a 6 year old son, where suddenly the positive attitude wasn’t enough, where I suddenly realised how much my partner is doing so can have positive attitude, how much I was just ignoring and laughed away, how much I just actively tried to forget subconsciously, or even consciously, how much luck (or hidden support) I needed to get where I am, and how fellow neurodivergent individuals didn’t had it and have major struggles in live now, and how easily I could have ended up like them 🖤 Stay save, positiveness is great, but don’t ignore darkness too much, or it will hit you while you are not prepared, and then it will hit you hard

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[–] toy_boat_toy_boat@lemmy.world -5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

i understand the frustration, but this post is just trying to upset people

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 weeks ago

How do you figure?

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