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Waiters have told me to please not stack the dishes because it messes with their carrying technique.

When I was a server I hated when people stacked their own plates. First off, I found it performative. Secondly it messed with my system. Thirdly it usually produced a 20lb pile of dishes covered in queso, half eaten burritos, and guacamole that was impossible to carry.

What do you do with your shopping cart when you are done? Do you just leave it to fend for itself in the sea of the parking lot? Or do you do the right thing and bring it back inside or to the cart corral.

The REAL REAL sign though? When someone brings a cart from the parking lot into the store to shop with, ultra move.

Just wanted to put in a counter for what a lot of people are saying in here, if you're looking for a "perfect-clone friend" right out the gate then prepare to be lonely as your tests fail... not because they're horrible people, but because they're a different person with different experiences.

The person litters (like @tiramichu@sh.itjust.works suggested)? Probably see's their entire family litter constantly and never gets comments or maybe even once got reprimanded for saying not to litter to an elder. Just ask them not to when they're in your vehicle, take into account their reaction and maybe have a conversation about it? (personal experience, just let me friend know it was lame and he stopped doing it. But now his vehicle is a roaming trashcan so I guess take what you can get)

You can be friends with people who are different or were raised differently than you, it's actually super beneficial! Now if it's a constant argument or it's turned into a negative experience every time and communication isn't working... it might be useful to move on for everyone's sake at that point.

You'd fail my test if I learn you have tests for people.

Maybe it's just a matter of phrasing, but the idea that I could be kind to our server all night, tip well, generally hit it out of the park, but be disproportionately judged for failing to do this one small thing because it's your personal test? Sets my social anxiety off enough that if I knew that were on your mind I'd probably just say we're not compatible.

Obviously, keep an eye out for shitty people, and don't put up with bad behaviour, but also judge people as people, wholistically.

I mean, you could stack your dishes but still be a rapist or murderer.

If it's a self service place, I tend to look around if there is a place to keep the dishes (kinda like SubWay has).
Otherwise, I don't stack. Waiters can have different ways of taking the dishes and those ways are usually based on all the dishes being random-access. I'd rather do nothing, than stack it the wrong way.

My test is the classic shopping cart test, for those who don't know its a test based on if someone returns a shopping cart. Its a societal benefit that is not aknowlaged and requires minimal effort. You wont be punished if you dont return it yet you're being an asshole.

Haha, no

Sincerely, a waiter

My mom was a cleaning lady and I worked in hospital housekeeping for a while. I always wipe down my table and tidy the plates etc. my kids have picked it up just from watching and they always clean their mess when we go out, can’t get them to clean up at home though

My ex wife always refused to put her shit in the bin at McD's on the basis that someone was paid to do it.

No. Someone was paid to wipe the table down, not pick up your shit.

When I lived in San Francisco, self-bussing was the norm. Here in Sacramento even the cafe wait staff look at me like I am crazy, unless I'm in a coffee franchise like Starbucks or Peets.

It's fun to have a friend who's been a waiter for 30 years, he just openly narrates the service and how good/bad they're doing (usually "look at how hard they have to scramble because you assholes came in late")