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I keep finding myself torn between my mother who is attempting (and unbeknownst to her, failing) to indoctrinate me into Islam, and my father, a spiritualist (essentially a Gnostic but less Christian), who claims to be able to talk to, “higher dimensional beings”, and a reincarnation of Vishnu. Oh, and he’s a misogynist. You can’t make this shit up.

Anyway, my father has these conversations with me in private, that he can’t have in front of my mother; this encompasses things like religion (which he disagrees with), philosophy, and politics (the latter of which I shall get to in a bit). My mother does the same; she tells me stuff that she can’t say in front of my dad, which is mainly Islam. I pretend to agree to both of them, to save myself an argument with them (although both have on occasion said things I agree with).

My mother told me to tell her stuff that my dad talks about to me, which I, to an extent, honour, although I do omit some details.

Politically, my mother has some pretty anti-imperialist tendencies, whereas my father is more or less a crypto-fascist; he’s an anti-communist, an individualist, an anti-Semite, and has said things against illegal immigration, and, as I said earlier, a misogynist, saying that women are, “possessive” in positions of power.

As you can tell, my family dynamics are, complicated, to put it mildly.

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[–] amemorablename@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 1 week ago

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Sounds like an abusive dynamic of a kind, even if not "intentional" abuse. Nobody should have to feel like they're managing a conflict between their own parents.

[–] pyromaiden@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

As a Gnostic myself hearing about your dad's politics is... interesting, to say the least.

Every fellow Gnostic I've ever met was solidly Left. I don't even know how you can reconcile things like racism & misogyny with Gnosticism in the first place. I'm not sure he understands what Gnosticism even is or what it seeks to accomplish judging by the sound of his views.

[–] Onewhoexists@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It is strange, he has said anti-capitalist things, and that all humans are equal, while also, again, being a misogynist. He has somewhat rolled back what he said about women being possessive in positions of power, saying that they are that way, “out of love”, but making generalisations about women like that is still of course misogynistic however you frame it.

Also, regarding anti-semitism, he did say that all 600 people that were off on 9/11 were Jews, although I have heard from other MLs that apparently Mossad was behind the attack(?) I’m not quite sure how true this is. He did say that they should, “kill all Jews”, but did roll back that statement saying that most Jews aren’t Zionists, and that Zionists are the problem.

He does also believe in the Illuminati, saying that they’re some sort of secret cult that worships the devil and intends to bring about some sort of single world government.

For lack of a better place to put this, he did say that the intelligent should rule.

His politics are pretty confusing, but I am very inclined to believe that he’s a fascist.

[–] pyromaiden@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Strange stuff for sure.

I wouldn't listen to anyone claiming 9/11 was done by Mossad as this is just a rebrand of "Jews did 9/11" which is of course nonsense.

[–] Onewhoexists@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 1 week ago

Yeah, you’re probably right. Thanks for listening to my rant by the way, I don’t have comrades IRL to talk to about this.

[–] omegathrowaway@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Oof, that sounds really exhausting, how often does this happen? Often enough to never really put down your guard?

[–] Onewhoexists@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 week ago

Well, my dad can only talk to me about what I referred to in the post on my way to school (which interrupts that), so not that often. Also, for the better or worse, (probably better) it has never broke into open confrontation between my parents, although sometimes it feels like the only thing that is holding my family together is, well, me, and probably also my mothers’ dependence on my father (she has some sort of mental illness from the stress of working in a retail job for 13 years). For this, and my father’s heart complications (he underwent cardiac arrest when I was one), we are relying on disability benefits.

[–] Saymaz@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I have noticed almost all of us communists have insane family situations!

[–] SlayGuevara@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I mean when you live in the marginalized part of the population (poverty, mental health issues, neurodiversity, etc.) you're bound to follow ideologies that are there for you so that makes sense.

[–] Saymaz@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 1 week ago

Communism attracts the oppressed yearning for liberation.