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For most of my life I’ve struggled with Emetophobia. It started when I was in second grade and threw up in my bed in the middle of the night. I honestly didn’t mind vomiting, but I was worried because for whatever reason I was fixated on telling my mom what happened when she came to check on me. I kept thinking over and over what I was going to say, like it had to be perfect English and grammar lol. This happened again later in the year, but this time, the fear was about me wanting to be independent. My parents asked me to open the door, and I told them no. Eventually they got me to open it, and I ended up running to their room crying. My actual fear of vomiting didn’t start until I was about eight or nine years old and I was sick with the stomach flu. Since that time, I have not thrown up. It has been ten years and I’m dreading every day that goes by because I’m so afraid that the day will come. My mom has the same fear but she has it way worse than me. I have the typical reaction when I see people throwing up, I cringe for a second and walk away from it, but my mom completely freaks out and will run and hide. I remember one time when I was about five years old, I was feeling sick at my younger sister’s birthday party after drinking too many juice boxes. Unable to speak, I ran to my mom gagging. She immediately yelled out to her mom, and she took me to the bathroom while my mom ran and hid. Once I had finished throwing up, I went out to see my mom crying in the corner. She told me that she developed her fear at about the same age I did, because her sister threw up on her. She went 15 years without throwing up, and when she did, told me it wasn’t that bad. Yet she talked about it for a long time afterwards. Is this fear genetic? And how can I fix it?

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[–] duckythescientist@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This may only be a small piece to the puzzle, but I hope it helps: Usually when I throw up, I feel much better afterward. Before, I feel miserable and nauseous. Yeah, throwing up sucks, but it's often better than whatever I'm feeling beforehand. There have even been a few times where I drank too much and was maybe going to throw up that I forced myself to throw up just to get it over with and feel better. Maybe try focusing on the fact that you'll feel better afterward.

[–] Marycat1@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 week ago

That used to help me when I was younger, feeling better afterwards made it not so bad.

[–] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I had a bit of this, but a recent bout of food poisoning actually helped. After 'holding it in' a long time, I kept looking it up and finally reasoned "okay, throwing up is good for me." And it was!


Not trying to minimize the fear. But I'm just saying, from personal experience, you should think of the future event as something to dread. It may help! Look at it that way a tiny bit more, and you can live a little easier.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Have you been able to see a psychologist about these concerns?

[–] Marycat1@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I do have a psychologist that I see. Unfortunately, she is the same way and has the same problem lol

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago

Interesting, either way I would normally see that as a good thing - a psychologist having the same problem would potentially mean they understand it better and will have better coping strategies ... if they suffer from the same complaint and haven't been helpful, it might be time to seek a better psychologist ... do they have a PhD? I find usually education & qualifications can make a difference.

[–] residentoflaniakea@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Whether genetics or not, I wouldn't dismiss the sensory part of the experience: being autistic means being more susceptible to sensory overstimulation. You know, despite feeling better, that the smell and taste lingers for a long while. Some autistic folks also struggle with pathogical demand avoidance. Being forced by your body to go through the act of purging might bring out the anxiety that comes from PDA. Unrelated: don't brush your teeth right afterwards but rinse mouth with baking soda. If this is traumatic for you (whatever that means for you), don't downplay it just because most people seem to not struggle so much with it as you do and find someone to talk about it (your experience of it).

[–] Marycat1@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 week ago

Thank you! And yes, the feeling of it is terrible. That’s what most of my fear is