We, the mods of !autism@lemmy.world, are writing because we have alerted the users of our community that we will report their accounts should they explicitly identify that they are under 18 years old in a comment or post shown on Lemmy World to enforce the Lemmy World Terms of Service (ToS). In said post, several users have brought up arguments and hypothetical situations that we would like discussed by the Lemmy World admin team and other mods to get clear guidance on expectations of our moderating actions and help clarify the concerns of the users in our community.

Basically, the main argument we see is concerning the federated organization of Lemmy and the Fediverse in general. The ToS state that:

4.0.2: You are at least 18 years of age and over the regulated minimum age defined by your local law to access Lemmy.World.

4.1: No one under 18 years of age is allowed to use or access the website.

That clearly states that anyone under 18 years of age cannot access any of the site. However, users are arguing that if a user that is registered on another instance is under 18 years old and posts in a community or comments on a post that is originally from Lemmy World, that user is technically not accessing the site directly. Instead, they are interacting with their instance, and that instance interacts with Lemmy World through the Fediverse protocol. That user did not directly interact or access Lemmy World. The information from Lemmy World was forwarded to them, and the information they shared was forwarded to Lemmy World. This brings up some nuances with expectations for moderating in Lemmy World in general.

Are mods expected to report or ban a user of another instance that explicitly identifies themselves as under 18 years old through a post or comment that is federated into the community that we moderate? Another situation that will likely arise is that of a user of another instance making a post on their instance.

If their post is cross-posted to a community we moderate on Lemmy World, are we to delete the cross-post?

Who would be in violation of the ToS because of the cross-post: the original poster or the cross-poster?

Yet another situation that could easily arise revolves around a Lemmy World user engaging with other websites or internet services.

Suppose someone on another website or service strikes a similarity to a user of the actual Lemmy World instance and identifies as under 18 years old, are mods expected to investigate and enforce the policy of reporting and/or banning the user from Lemmy World based on a judgment call? We want to be clear that the purpose of our post is to clarify the expectations that the Lemmy World admin team has of its mods so that we can conscientiously and dependably comply with the policies that are set to help manage the instance.

Hey everyone! I just wanted to let you all know about a little change we are making in how we mod.

As you may or may not know, the mod tools are sparse, for the time being, at least. So we only have a few options.

That's why we will be rolling out a new thing from this point forward. Call it a 3 strikes rule if you like.

This is meant to be an inclusive and friendly community. We work hard to keep it that way. There appears to be an uptick in issues with breaking Rule 5. In case you are unfamiliar, that's the be respectful rule.

In light of this, we have chosen to implement a system where the first offense of the rules (any rules) will be given a chance to reword or remove the offense. The next offense receives a 3 day ban. The third offense (again, any rules) receives a week ban. The last offense is a permanent ban.

Your community is what you make it. If you aren't safe here, we aren't doing our jobs as mods and as members of the community. We all need to work together to keep this place safe for ourselves. That is why Rule 5, in particular, is so important.

Please, think about what you are saying before you post. There is a human on the other side of that screen, and just because you are anonymous doesn't mean what you say has no impact. Everyone has bad days, but we don't need to take them out on each other.

Thank you for taking the time to read this!

E: Updated to reflect the nature of those in the community. Thanks for the input!

I got my diagnosis this morning!

I'm living a nightmare at the moment. I've been trying to curb the last remnants of meltdowns where I start to get irritated and stressed and can't handle what's happening.

So my husband suggested gummies. I already vape, and they started selling gummies too. So I tried it. When I was younger, I smoked a handful of times and it did nothing. My body is weird when it comes to medication, mind altering substances, etc. When I'd drink, it could work one day but the next time the same amount did nothing, then it'd work again, etc. No rhyme or reason, and I tried everything I could think of to find out why. No dice.

The gummies helped so much. I was happier, no stress, no irritation. It was beautiful and I loved it. Then yesterday happened. This shitty state decided to close the loophole on delta 8. Now I'm back to being irritated and stressed and I hate it so much.

Doctor prescribed me klonopin (yes i scheduled an appointment immediately) . Instead of making me feel like I'm light and open, now I get to feel oppressed again, like depression meds I also take do. Emotionally I'm no longer depressed, but chemically I am (I don't make enough of the feel good chemicals), but this med makes me feel almost like I used to. I keep expecting The Voice to tell me what a piece of shit I am. It hasn't happened yet but the anticipation is freaking me out.

Even if it levels out, it's like living in a cardboard box after owning a mansion. I'm disheartened and I've been crying since I found out. We are moving to an adjoining blue state at the first of the year, so there's a light at the end. But why am I not allowed to feel normal even if I'm not? Who did I piss off in a previous life?

I ask, as fireworks go off nearby. Loud enough to make my teeth and chest vibrate.

Hiding in my room only goes so far, since I get it from both sides of my house.

Oh, hi, Mark!

This girl is at the end of her rope. Recap of previous post: my mouse pointer got unusably slow. Next day PC wouldn't work. 1 long beep, 3 short.

Changed the graphics card, nope. Just changed out the motherboard, nope.

So I did a lazy research because it takes a lot out of me (back problems) and I was tired. Turns out if you don't put the company in the search all kinds of stuff pops up that says gpu or insufficient RAM problem.

Why, if nothing changed in those 6 months it worked, would it suddenly need more RAM?

I have 2 sticks of 8GB but the original motherboard only recognized 1 stick. I don't recall having a limitation the 10 or so years ago I built my last desktop. This motherboard apparently only recognizes 12. Am I crazy thinking a gaming motherboard should not have a limitation like this?

I like being able to spend literal hours focused on one thing. It makes the time I'm able to be productive longer.

Right now the worst part for me is the rejection sensitivity, especially trying to be active in a brand new place.

I built my computer 8 months ago. 6 months later, the mouse pointer started lagging so bad it was unusable. I tried some fixes but nothing really helped. The next day, my computer didn't work. POST says it's the graphics card. Okay, I got a new one. It arrived today and I put it in. Nothing has changed. The fans on the old one worked, so it had power. Did I misread my beeps or do something else wrong. I know enough to build a pc, but not enough to troubleshoot it.

This is my motherboard. It doesn't have onboard graphics.

This is the old graphics card.

This is the new one.

Help!

As requested: 1 long beep, 3 short. No unusual flashing. It powers on fine and everything appears to be working inside, but it does the beeps and doesn't show anything on the monitor. This is the power supply.

Got a special interest you want to talk about but don't think it needs a whole post? Put it here!

I was waiting for this group to be made and it hasn't so I did it. Come join us too!

I always thought a sticky with everyone's DAE posts was needed. That way if you wonder, you can look in that thread and immediately not feel alone. That isn't to say you can't post a separate thread if you want!

So comment your DAE questions here, and I will add them to the list! I will post what few I remember to start.

DAE:

*Not hear a voice in their head? Not have images? Feelings attached to memories?

*Pick at their fingernails?

*Not have a special interest?

Well I was waiting for someone else to create this community but it hasn't happened yet, so here we are.

You know the drill. Let's get this place hopping!