No Stupid Questions

Maybe I missed something but nowhere in this discussion do you mention whether you want to sleep with him? Even when people sort of prompted you.

If you fancy him, take it to the next level. I imagine he's keeping it light for plausible deniability in case nothing happens or he gets rejected.

Either make a move or tell him you're not interested in a relationship. Figure out your own intentions instead of trying to mindread him.

13 years is a significant age gap for someone in their mid twenties.

I am certain he wants to have sex with you, wether or not he is thinking about a long term relationship, I have no insights.

It could be that he is not thinking about that. You are pretty vague on when you are relocating, so maybe he thinks that if the two of you work out, than you will stay.

I am not familiar with either culture, but I'd guess that he does.

and asked me out on a date again

Was this specifically described as a date? If so, I'd suggest that this is the way in to politely raise this. In fact even if it was ambiguous, it still is the way to do it: "Just so that we are both clear, although I enjoyed meeting you the other night, I don't want to take things any further than these casual meetings." or similar. I'm assuming that you did enjoy it - or you wouldn't be considering another one.

You could restate that you will soon be moving (people can be incredibly selective about what they take in and what they don't) if you want to - although you shouldn't need to give a reason if you don't want to.

Yeah pretty safe assumption

Feels like there are tons of cultural differences involved. Maybe you are not aware of them?

Cultural differences are usually not changeable. I mean, you cannot change all people at once, obviously. Most times you cannot even change that one special person.

You can only be open to accept that one specific person as they are. And you need to talk about these things more, and much more explicitly, than about some other general topics.

Don't know if this is helpful, but I must admit that I don't know the Indian or Japanese cultures enough to really answer your questions.

yes.

He is probably just shy, him self on how to bring up this topic.

I'm not certain you provided any signs that he viewed it as a date or even that he liked you. I'm not sure you characterized any motivation on his part that made me think he was into you, except for that part of your conversation was around marriage and it read like you brought that up not him which I guess would be a signal that material was on their mind (but that's irrelevant if you brought it up I'd say).

I generally assume all men want to sleep with all women regardless of any other concept or notion, simply because sex is fun and men in my experience seem on average far more willing to do that with just about anyone. That's not really true, and it's not really a fair assumption, but I don't think it causes harm if you don't act irrationally on it.

It sounds like he:

• likes talking to you because he invited you on two outings (both of which you assumed were dates)
• is rich and therefore when he pays for the food it lessens the implication that it's a date (although I think that's fair to keep in mind. To provide a counter example, I pay for friends meals semi-frequently and have always paid for every 1v1 meal with a woman (and most of the men 1v1s among peers or younger) as a thank you for the company. This is not attached to romantic or sexual expectations or desires, it's just how I was raised and have decided to maintain that practice because I like it).
• is attractive (by your own admission)

I'm not certain I can gleam any more information about him out of your text.

Did he only want to talk to you about relationships and physicality? Was he physically distant or was he escalating touches? Did you catch him giving you signals like checking you out or anything else that might point to a purely carnal thinking?

Otherwise I'd say right now, it's safe to assume he wants to have sex with you. It's also probably unfair to assume that's all he wants and doubly unfair to assume that that's his motive for hanging out with you.

I believe men and women can have platonic relationships, which I think based on some comments you made in this thread you also believe.

So I'd recommend a couple possibilities:

• Your gut says he just wants to sleep with you, it's heavy on your mind, or you just like being very communicative. In this case, communicate clearly and honestly something like "hey, just to get this off my chest I'm enjoying our conversations and 1v1s but as I explain to all men early on, I'm not interested in dating or anything physical right now. If that's why you wanted to hangout, I understand and you've done nothing wrong, but that's not why I was enjoying hanging out. If that's not what you were looking for, and you're okay with just being platonic friends, I can't wait for our 1v1."
• If you don't think he was actually pursuing you, you feel like he was pretty normal hanging out with you, or you just don't want to broach this subject until you're certain you both have misaligned intentions I'd recommend continuing as normal, and mentally defining your boundaries while preparing to communicate them when you need to. This would look like (as a random kinda silly example) "he grabs your shoulder once while telling a story or something", maybe no big deal for you and you move along, "he grabs your shoulder constantly and it's now abnormal behavior", you tell him you don't like this and ask them to stop and then clarify your intentions with him (probably after that event/gathering).

Please know this is coming from a man's perspective and it's as brief as I could make it. Please consider the normal woman wisdom (even if it sucks that it's required) that you should focus on your immediate physical safety first and emotional/mental safety next at all times. If you get the feeling that clear communication would put you in danger, don't do it until you're safe.

24F and 37M. That's all I had to read here to answer "YES."

37M and 24F is not an unreasonable age difference for a long term relationship. Him being japanese I also assume he won't spend that much time taking care of the kids which means him being old while they're still teenagers is not an issue in his mind.