I call her Mama and only refer to her as my mom when talking to people outside the family. Kids call me mom, momma, mama - it just depends. They never call me by my name and I never call my mom by hers - that would be super weird and would seem disrespectful.
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My kids call me Mom, step kids call me by my first name.
Oh and sometimes mama, in Spanish.
Used to be 妈妈, but eventually I just called her by her full name cause I'm tired of her toxicity and just went full "American rebellious teenager" mode with it. Its supposedly very rude because filial piety bullshit, but fuck that. I don't recognize this bitch as a "mother".
I call my mom “mom”, but now that I have a kid I use her grandma name more frequently. Honestly it’s a little easier to call her that, I have some unresolved stuff and while we’re friendly the mom term is a little much. My daughter calls me “mommy”, but usually doesn’t enunciate so it’s “mah-ee” most of the time.
I call my mom Ma, too. My kids call me Ma or Mama. It's funny but we took in some stray cat brothers in one day and kept them. A couple months later I heard Maaa-aaaa Maaaama! But the kids were at school... The kittens had learned they could get my attention immediately by mimicking my kids and that first couple times I couldn't tell the difference. To this day their meow sounds like 'maaaa"
To her face, "Mum", but when referring to her indirectly it's usually, "my mother".
I remember asking if it was OK to stop calling her "Mummy" but I'm not sure how old I was at the time. Definitely under 10 though. Probably heard other kids of the same age calling their mothers "Mum" when they were being collected from school and figured I'd better act accordingly and do the same.
(The only people who use "Mom" here are folks in the West Midlands, I think. And American ex-pats, I guess, but that doesn't really count.)
My mother goes by mum or grannie, but my wife goes my mom, pronounced “mum”.
That’s because “mom” is a shortening of “mother” which is what she is, but “mum” is a shortening of “ma’am” which is a shortening of “madame” which means “my lady” and is what you call someone of a higher social class than you. And she wanted to get as far away from class hierarchy in the house as possible.
They’re both generally “my mother” when spoken of in the third person by me or my kids.
I call mine as little as possible. My life is so much better without her.
yeahhh i usually just use her birth name if I must refer to her at all. Some folks weren't meant to have kids and don they best to prove it.
Norwegian: Mamma. It's the same general meaning as "mom". "Mommy" strikes me as a bit more childish, and I don't think we have an equivalent here.
Hadde venner i oppveksten som brukte mor og far. Litt for formelt for meg, så mamma og pappa, selv om begge er over 80 nå
Tror det også er litt dialekt-avhengig. Jeg ser for meg at Mor kanskje blir brukt i Bergen og enkelte steder på Oslos beste vestkant litt mer naturlig enn andre steder. Bak den nordnorske låvedøra der jeg ble født så brukes det ikke i noen som helst sammenheng.
Det var venner fra oslo vest og bærum. Det var ingen som brukte mor og far der jeg vokste opp heller, utenom om besteforeldre.
Mommy is rather childish. I didn't call my mom that seriously after about 8.
I'm Norwegian and say «mor» (mother). My mom asked me to use that instead of «mamma» ("mom") when she thought it sounded childish.
You can also say «modern», but to my ear it's a little more harsh sounding. Maybe it's a dialect thing.
In English, I don't think many adults would normally say "mommy", but many adult Norwegians say «mamma».
So to me, at least, a closer match is mom=mamma and mother=mor and mommy has no Norwegian equivalent.
Interesting. In America, we also have "ma". I don't know who uses that one, but it's used in shows sometimes. We have far more creative names for grandparents.
Just mom
Yep. Unless I’m being dramatic, then it’s mother
A miserable cunt. Sorry, but I think balance is good and as much as most folk have decent moms, and I'm grateful for it, my mom is top 5 worst humans I've ever met. I hope your's is better.
I call my mom "mum".
Don't shame people for calling their mothers "mommy" : it sounds so middle-school edgy.
It's always been mum and dad. My kids call me dad/daddy/dumb ass/fucker.
That took a sudden turn right there
Mostly just Mom
"Mutter" (= mother) which started as a joke thing because it sounds as formal in German as it does in English but it kinda stuck and now anything else would feel weird
As a child, usually mother. As an adult, by her name.
Mid-30s woman here, from western US. I call my mom any of the following, depending on mood/context:
- Mom
- Mommy
- Mama
- Ma (definitely can become Maaaaa at times)
- Uma
- Mother (usually in a jokingly stern tone)
- Her name (when she's being particularly deaf)
Mãe.
I'm Brazilian.
móðir, madre, mah, a-máaaaa
(Not icelandic, but it sounds cool)
Ammu
Because of My Cousin Vinny, I know 'Ma' to be very New Jersey but I suppose it could be southern too.
Mamá (spanish, equivalent to mom)
Mom, mother as a (not really) joke.
I used to call her mama but now I mostly just use her name. My family is weird like that.
Mom or more often her name? A diminutive of her name. I like her name. I do not think she does.
I called my mother by her name. My oldest brother started it.
"Ma!"
Also, it has to be shouted. As a kid—coming into the house from who-knows-what adventure where I destroyed an item of clothing—again. Or as an adult trying to reach her over the sound of Fox News with the volume up way too loud.
This is the way.