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I actually did find that person. We're pretty happy, grumbling and isolating from the world together. There's people and then there's people, and the latter are just awful.
Agreed. I think I've found her, too. I gotta tell ya. This is pretty great.
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M'santhrope
I just gave up, it's just easier for my mental health.
To anyone that manages to work 9-5 and grind dating + hobbies. you're a god and a legend. good for you.
I work 8:30-16:30 and the I have hours left with my wife. We spend that time walking in parks, puzzling, dancing, debating, watching art, watching movies or TV shows... We have so much time!
I dont really have hobbies anymore because I prefer spending all my time with my wife, and I'm ok with that.
It's not that hard, really, I think. Just... Touch grass, go outside, stop doom scrolling, go find a hobby you love, find people and remember that everyone is flawed, so am I
Idk why this is getting downvoted. Sounded wholesome. I can see people disagreeing on the giving up hobbies party, but it’s also really easy to make judgments from an outside perspective. Me and my partner do have hobbies and we do appreciate our alone time, but I also aspire to do more puzzles and quality time things together.
Ah sure, have hobbies, do whatever you want, do whatever you like (as long as you don't hurt or inconvenience others), just BE HAPPY. If happiness to you is being alone in a block hut on the mountain then you're different from me, and that's fine. Live and let live.
My wife and I just happen to be so close that we want to just always be together and do everything together. We love our quality time together and I prefer my time with her over my hobby time so hobbies kinda went exit
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yeah what she is talking about is called a dog
No, cats are infinitely more misanthropic than dogs.
People do say its more important to hate the same stuff than to like the same stuff in a relationship
Best to be safe and hate everything to have maximum compatibility with potential partners.
Quite a logical wish.
Find a way to not hate people. Learn to recognize yourself in others. Or maybe you already do, and you need to learn to love yourself more. Have patience with yourself, and be more accepting of yours and others' flaws.
It's possible. I did it.
She seems sweet.
Tangential for sure, but does anyone think the rise is misanthropy is linked to the documented increase in loneliness and alienation? It's purely conjectural but it stands to reason that a feeling of alienation coupled with the distance preventing us from humanizing others might be corollary.
Nope, misanthrope here.
Humans just fucking suck.
They have to kill and eat and 'fix' everything that comes in their way.
I didn't like people just as much when I was forced to interact with them more than I am now, I'd just argue it's easy to not rely on others nowadays.
From my personal anecdotal evidence, yeah, to an extent. I live in the States and a lot of our culture is pretty toxic. I had to find a few non-toxic, non-misanthropic groups to hang out with to reverse my misanthropy. Moving out of a conservative state helped a lot. Prior, I'd end up hanging out with other reluctantly socializing misanthropes who repeated prevalent toxic behaviors. It always resulted in a lot of unnecessary drama and hurt feelings.
Society atomized, third place dismantled. As an adult it's difficult to meet new people and form deep relationships. There are services that ostensibly help you do that, whose real mission is the same old thing - profit maximizing. So they all enshittify and become toxic and manipulative.
It's difficult to not be misanthropic.
Same. 😔
I think I've found my soulmate.
So you're not people, then?
I went from ich_iel to this lemmy to check out the moth memes
Wtf are you all boring socially awkward people?
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Yeah, my marriage ended with my ex torturing me for about three days give or take, and then calling the police to have me removed from the house I paid the bills on. The police then lied about what happened and there is no police report. I essentially don’t have rights as a human being - if a cis person rapes or physically assaults me, they will face no consequences. Kinda done with all forms of relationships.
Why torture yourself, then?
There are good people out there, I'd like to think I'm one, or trying at least. So there is already at least one good person out there.
Don't let a few assholes ruin your life. there are boat loads of like-minded people out there for you, find them
I’m not going to find anyone in this red state. If my ex hadn’t also managed to max out my credit cards before kicking me out, I would be able to escape. I will never get out, I will never experience love or compassion again, I exist as a ball of misery that screams at people to try to prevent anyone from going through the torture I have experienced. I do not exist as a human being that is capable of receiving love, I am an object of anger that attempts to point myself like a gun at the people who hurt others to give my sad and miserable life meaning and purpose.
#murrca
Such a wonderful place!
Seeking out mental health services six months ago got me physically assaulted and cost me a job, so I have PTSD from my ex husband torturing me, the child rape facility I was sent to as a teenager also torturing me, and the hospital I was sent to as an adult for daring to ask for help beating the shit out of me and calling me “fucking retarded!” I wish I could die, but instead of death I’ll just keep yelling at people so hopefully no one else will get to spend their nights slowly drinking themselves to death to make their brain not feel like it’s on fire.
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