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My encounter with the most fragile white person I've ever met (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 2 days ago by AmerikaLosesWW3@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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It started in Chinese class, we were doing Kahoot (virtual pop quiz), when Student A harassed me for not getting a perfect score. He said, "I thought Asians were smart". Well I'm sorry for not being a perfect robot. That is a dehumanizing stereotype, and he probably didn't even consider it to be racism which makes it twice as worse. He also said, "You should be good at this since you're Chinese." I'm Asian American, my main language is English. It's normal for Asian Americans to be illiterate in their ethnic language. Oh, you're Chinese? List every Chinese word in the dictionary. At the beginning of the year, I scanned the classroom for Asians. He took offense to this. I'm sorry for preferring Asians. A Chinese person has never called me a removed before. A Chinese person has never told me to go back to China.

During group time, we were paired together. He asked me how well he wrote the Chinese characters, and I half-heartedly said it was good. He took offense to this. So you want to disrespect my race and expect me to treat you fairly? I ordered in perfect English at McDonalds, where is my praise? Growing up, I faced all sorts of humiliation over my accent. Be glad I didn't treat you the same as those racists. He tried to stir up drama by involving our history teacher and the students, loudly complaining about how I treated him to the entire class. The history teacher forced me to apologize to him, which was absurd. The entire situation was peak white fragility.

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[–] Jin008@lemmygrad.ml 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Every time I learn of non-white peoples' experiences in the west the more and more I am grateful to be in my third world ass country lol

[–] chickennuggies@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 1 day ago

Shits trash. The west is only capable of barbarism with lipstick on in its current state

[–] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 31 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Why's he even taking a Chinese class if he can't act like a normal human being around Asians? Is he a wannabe sexpat or something? Does he just like the characters, and doesn't care for the people who actually invented them? Sheesh.

[–] Jin008@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 2 days ago

Seems very much like the sexpat in Asia mindset. Especially if OP is a male because they have the mindset that Asian males are lower than them so they'll look down on them but they fetishize Asian women. All round disgusting cretins and will probably get involved with some weird right-wing online groups or pedophillic stuff as is common with these types.

[–] chickennuggies@lemmygrad.ml 15 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

The individual you interacted with sounds like a deeply unserious person. Just keep growing and try your best to ignore them because that will take time away from yourself. Unfortunately I don't doubt they will involve themselves more into your life even if its little annoying moments like these, however just remember this person will never matter that much so just do you <3

[–] felhfeltetel@lemmygrad.ml 22 points 2 days ago

Well, a very sad situation. Me personally won't be able to help in terms of giving advice, because I'd have started throwing hands at the 10th of this mess, so I don't think I'm qualified to.

[–] rostselmasch@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 2 days ago

I ordered in perfect English at McDonalds, where is my praise?

You can have that in Germany. You may be born here or lived only the first 4 years in some other other country and German is basically your first language: You will hear things like "You speak German very well!". If your skin is a bit darker and you are talking in perfect German:"You speak German very well!". I actually answer such comments with "Thank you, you too!".

I have a book, which shows my ancestry back to the beginning of the 19th century rooted in Germany (Immigrated then to Ukraine and then tsarist Russia, later back) and they had their german villages and communities, even refusing to interact much with other ethnic people like russians (Somewhere in the 70s they slowly started to make children with other ethnicities) and preserving their weird old way to speak German till today. Result:"You speak German very well".

Idk what actually you have to do, that people will accept you here somehow. This is absolutely stupid. Even visually I have darker golden blond hair and grey eyes and I am pale as fuck: "You speak German very well." I read Marx in German and speak Russian way worse then english:"You speak German very well!". "You probably like vodka, don't you?", "Do you like Putin?". My grand-grandchildren will probably hear the same compliments about how they speak German very well. Or I am all wrong and Germans simply love to compliment everyone about how one speaks German.

Laughing about USA about racism there, while claiming Europe is so great with that, is absolutely stupid. I remember how other classmates often made fun about someone, who had Father or Mother from Poland, because they are all allegedly stealing. Having this in mind, being from east Asia is way worse regarding racism or if you skin is darker then a normal Turkish person is. The mother of a friend of mine is from Japan, it is not funny what he had and has to hear from others. Also, his German is also very well!

Coming back now: I would never compliment you for ordering something in perfect English, because you didn't do it in flawless German. If you do it, I will record a Video where I say: " You speak German very well! "

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 18 points 2 days ago

"You should be good at this since you're Chinese."

Maybe I'm being overly hopeful, but that's explicitly racist and I hope that your uni still acts on this kinda thing.

[–] Jonathan12345@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 2 days ago

What a weirdo. It almost seems like he has a strange obsession with antagonizing you, and if I were you I'd probably tell someone about it since he doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would drop this of his own accord.