Transmasc

I’m 4+ post top surgery and men can be insane. There are some socialization tips out there I’m sure, but I’ve learned most of what I have through working retail.

1. Sounds like you got a dude-ish face so let that mean mug do the talking. Men aren’t told to ‘smile’ and you can be as much of a curmudgeon as you’d like.

2. Men joke cruelly. If you want to push back, frame it like a joke at his expense like, “Man, women are 50% of the population. You can’t catch ass that’s a you problem.”

3. Mirror some crassness back. People open up when you use a similar language and you can have quite a filthy mouth and still be a positive voice for women.

But also-… congrats! Looks like you pass! Mixed blessing?

Not trans but I can count on one hand the amount of blatant misogynistic things I’ve heard from friends and/or colleagues within the last ten years or so. Thankfully that hasn’t been my experience.

Yep. It's just a part of life running into people like that. Doesn't mean it doesn't suck, but as you get more experience with it you'll find your own ways of pushing back. A good comeback is "oh, so you see your mother as a sex object?" or something like that.