"you see? The husband is serving the wife by having final say on family decisions, and money... and politics really if you think about it. Plus you know, women get emotional and it's good for a man to serve her with his level head... And she can really help him the most by making sure she's still physically appealing after all the time with the babies and the house.. nothing worse than a man made to go astray because his wife 'let herself go' instead of stopping his eyes from wandering.."

All, sadly, direct quotes I've heard in church (British charismatic evangelical)

not sure this rhetoric helps