You know what fucked me up?

All, sadly, direct quotes I've heard in church

The fact that my reaction here was "Well, duh."

I had to take a step back and reflect that being so used to this shit is not normal. It should do more than make me shrug and go "The usual crap, eh?" I often forget just how deep the damage goes that church has left me with, but moments like this where blatant sexism doesn't really register emotionally make it clear how, even after all these years, my intuition of "normal" is still borked.