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You ever had a crush on someone back in the day, see them now and go "what was I thinking"? (hexbear.net)
submitted 3 months ago by ButtBidet@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net
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This happens to me when I rarely open up Facebook. I'd see someone I was obsessing over in the 10s, and now I just wonder what I was ever feeling with them. It's not like something happened and they're massively different, they're more or less the same. Really the world changed a lot and I'm not the LIB I used to be.

I'm not dating anyone new now. But if I had to judge someone as hot, they would have many of the following characteristics:

  • left of some soft (Marxist, Anarchist, hell I'll date a decent socdem)
  • mask wearing
  • vegan
  • high empathy, worry about the suffering of others
  • reader
  • actively organising something in their community

To be honest, I had a pretty basic taste in dates back in the day. If anything, this should be a self-crit.

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[-] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 13 points 3 months ago

I should have noticed all the signs, but they were really into me and I was desperate for attention. Sometimes I think about what it could have been like, they were actually a vegan, seemed to have legitimate interest in me as a person too.

I've been exactly here, comrade. Loneliness is hella painful. I'm glad that you're OK now. I hope that she's fine.

[-] axont@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Yeah I'm ok, I'm more comfortable with myself these days and realizing I'm more on the grey-asexual spectrum, which has really helped with the loneliness somehow. ace-heart

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