For instance, this one (link to a post to !memes@reddthat.com): https://reddthat.com/post/20260613
Pasting it in your search bar should give you this kind of results:
You can then click on it to access the post from your instance (in this example, lemmy.zip: https://lemmy.zip/post/16918691)
A community to talk about the Fediverse and all it's related services using ActivityPub (Mastodon, Lemmy, KBin, etc).
If you wanted to get help with moderating your own community then head over to !moderators@lemmy.world!
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Yeah, 3rd party links are a tougher nut to crack. You'd think they could at least fix the local links, though.
I can think of a few potential solutions, but they'd all require a lot of user opt in and centralisation, which makes it unlikely to ever happen.