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For the more "masculine" ones, say video games and roleplaying games, really wish guys were less fucking rude to me or even just ignoring me. Or also lovely is me suggesting an idea, ignoring me, then agreeing when someone else takes it and suggests it.
Some people online are oddly hostile about American recipes using cups/tablespoons? I do a lot of baking, so much I do have a scale, but that's extremely uncommon here. Most cup recipes are fine. Even weighed recipes need tweaking sometimes.
Knitting is a solo hobby because oh man old ladies can be really weird about what yarn you use or needles you use or even why you're knitting so young. I was 30 when they were saying this. Sure, younger than them but???
For the first point, does it help if the person repeating it acknowledges that they were just repeating what you said? I find that in conversations in general sometimes people don't get heard so I try to repeat what they said so it can be heard but I always try to start along the lines of "Going back to what you said...".
For the other two I completely understand and I think it's just a weird form of gatekeeping.
It's not as bad when it's started with like, "I agree with x" or "What if we did what x said but with " or something, sure. They usually don't though, almost never. And then everyone at the table acts as if the person who said it came up with it and it's infuriating.
Edit - I might not be clear. The person suggesting the idea I had is generally not boosting it so it's heard, they are generally acting as if they came up with it, and then everyone suddenly realizes it's a good idea coming from a guy instead. When it's someone realizing the idea wasn't heard, they usually don't do that.
I can only imagine how frustrating that must be. I'm sorry that a lot of men are probably subconsciously really shitty and just don't have the care and self awareness to do anything about that.
I am just, constantly in awe of how toxic the fiber arts community can be
Like friends
We are making lovely comfort items, random decor, stuffies and just like, silly shit WHY ARE YOU SCREECHING AT ONE ANOTHER
Hence me going to exactly 1 stitch n bitch ever and then quietly doing crochet in my house forever more
Yeah and the elitism. Like I am knitting for a friend's baby no freaking way am I going to make it with a silk merino blend when I know my friend can only machine wash and tumble dry clothes... And that was before they had a tiny human. Some of the local groups were up in arms that I used ACRYLICS quell horror but dude I make kids toys and they literally drag my toys through a mud bath and three years later it's still in one piece and loved. I do have the budget now for the nicer stuff but when I started out, not so much. And you know what a silk is nice but sometimes... I want a shitty fluffy machine washable plush yarn. Fiber people gotta chill and remember at the end of the day we are playing with sticks and string. Be nice.
The problem with cups and tbsp/tsp is that it varies between sets of spoons.
100g is 100g no matter what. And I don't need to look for the damn spoons all the time, I can just mix the ingredients by weight directly into the bowl.
Not just that, when I moved out of my parents' place or out on my own from a roommate situation all I ever needed was my scale. I didn't have to buy wet measuring cups, dry measuring cups, measuring spoons and what have you filling my drawers and cupboards with inaccurate nonsense.
I also have ultra accurate versions of a couple of my friends' grandparents' recipes. Turns out just a dash of this and a dash of that was amounting to up to 50 grams of extra corn flour or whatever. If you can get someone to participate in giving you a recipe you can really just recreate it with zero guesswork.