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If you are exposed to lies and manipulations a lot, maybe you developed a defence mechanism against language.
I have, and for example my boss loves to fist-bump me and compliment my work. This means nothing to me because I know he's a POS scum human through his actions.
My aunt is one of the loveliest people in the world, yet she let slip once that she befriends people because they're useful to her. She's nothing but smiles and good gestures, yet it's only to use and discard you, as I've observed throughout her life. She meant it. Thanks, wine.
My father is in jail for basically being Andrew Tate.
Compliments can be real, and they definitely feel more real when they're still expressed behind your back, but from my experience humans are generally playing a shitty social game. That's why rude people are so great - you're actively putting yourself at a disadvantage in our relationship just to express yourself? Fuck yeah, preach your feelings buddy!
Someone was once trying to give me a advice by saying that people just talk to obtain information about each other and use it to their own advantage. Well, that was an instant upgrade to my shitlist for her. And ya, in the end her behavior caused one of my social circles to fall apart.
When someone tells you they're bad, believe them.
Awwh damn, sorry you lost your group of homies to a goober :( I'm glad you had other friends at the time though~ Losing everyone because of one goob sucks.
It's not always easy to accept these behaviours though. Even after my aunt's radical statement, I needed a lot of introspection in order to find, well, reality lol. ~~Jesus Christ take me back~~
I concur with your conclusion, but I also love to balance it with a paraphrased quote who's origin I don't recall...
It has two sides: Humans are corruptable, but we are also redeemable. It helps me put the humanity back on people my brain would otherwise villanize. I'm ever the optimistic ideallist though. :p
Ooof idealist. On the shitlist with you! /s