Yeah it sounds like you're just describing general nervousness. That's not what is being talked about here. A simple half hour doctors appointment literally fucking cancels everything I wanted to do that day, it is exhausting to think about it.

So sitting there staring at the clock until it's time for your appointment and being literally unable to do anything else until it's time to go while being terrified of being late or unprepared is normal? I mean I am literally unable to do anything even if I want to. I'm diagnosed ADHD and this is more than just checking your watch a lot. If you've never had executive dysfunction you're lucky. It doesn't make sense to people who don't experience it.

I don't know if you're arguing in bad faith here. If you are, I don't think either of us should waste our time.

What you are describing isn't close to what the issue is for some. You should be open to the idea that this can actually be a problem to a few, while being like what you describe, to most.

The difference in almost every diagnosed condition is severity of impact. In that sense, you are right, it is quite common to keep in mind a coming appointment and worry about not being late. It is quite normal, and not a symptom of anything and especially not ADHD.

But, surely you can, if only conceptually, accept that "worry" and the adverse effects, can vary in severity? When it reduces quality of life, that's when it starts becoming a disorder. Guess what the last D is short for, for many diagnoses? It's just a bunch of common negative traits grouped by some meaningful commonality and describes as a "disorder" when it acts as one.

Which brings me back to your seemingly callous disregard of people being different, which to be frank, sounds like a you-problem.

• How most people function: like what you describe

• How some people dysfunction, typically associated with ADHD: you cannot do shit, because you have an appointment later. It's not even "worry", "concern", or "anxiousness". It's simply an interruption in your day, that stops you from doing anything.

If you cannot see the difference between these two, then you lack either empathy or imagination. In either case, you do you.