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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

So I've realized that in conversations I'll use traditional terms for men as general terms for all genders, both singularly and for groups. I always mean it well, but I've been thinking that it's not as inclusive to women/trans people.

For example I would say:

"What's up guys?" "How's it going man?" "Good job, my dude!โ€ etc.

Replacing these terms with person, people, etc sounds awkward. Y'all works but sounds very southern US (nowhere near where I am located) so it sounds out of place.

So what are some better options?

Edit: thanks for all the answers peoples, I appreciate the honest ones and some of the funny ones.

The simplest approach is to just drop the usage of guys, man, etc. Folks for groups and mate for singular appeal to me when I do want to add one in between friends.

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[-] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 8 months ago

I was talking about the default assumptions people make when they hear the word. Your circumstances don't come in to it, unless your claim is that most people share your experiences

[-] FauxPseudo@lemmy.world -1 points 8 months ago

In San Diego the default assumption of "dude" is that it can be literally anyone or any thing.

The people there accepted this decades ago. It's not one person's experience. It's a shared experience of millions. It's a geographically specific situation with the Smurf language phenomenon. Any noun can be Smurf and everyone there understands the smurfing meaning when it's smurfing said.

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