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It would require that a significant portion of the population admit their parents mutilated them as infants.
For some reason, they refuse to admit they were mutilated without their consent.
Some of them have subsequently mutilated their own sons, and admitting that was mutilation is beyond their capacity.
I was circumcised, I don't have a problem with that fact. I understand why people do have a problem with circumcision and I don't have an issue with it being banned.
Don't try to induce mental trauma in me for my past that I'm not bothered by.
I have been physically punished when I did something bad as a kid. I'm not traumatized by that either but I still think it's good that it's illegal nowdays.
I agree. And if people went around claiming you must be traumatized over it and lying to yourself you'd say they're full of shit. If someone was trying to convince you to be traumatized about it you'd tell them to fuck off.
I don't think they're saying people are traumatized. That word has a meaning. They're saying people have issue reconciling the fact that their parents would do something like that to them and also that their parents are generally good people. Many people would rather not even consider that it wasn't the right call, because it makes it easier to hold those two beliefs at the same time. However, people make mistakes. Those aren't contradictory ideas if you can understand that people can be mislead.
Good for you not being bothered by it. But I think it's rather easy to imagine that it can be a traumatizing experience and lead to psychological or physiological injuries. So it's a medical procedure that should only be prescribed by doctors or if you are an adult.
Sure, I'm not arguing against that. I'm arguing against this mentality that everyone who has been circumcised should be carrying trauma over it, or must be carrying trauma but are lying to themselves. Don't say you're fighting on my behalf for something that doesn't bother me in the slightest.
Fair point, not sure somebody is doing it and if so why, but that would be indeed contra productive. If someone does not feel traumatized why would anyone would want to convince them otherwise?
The post I was replying to:
I'm not sure that is exactly how they meant it, but I can see you interpret it that way. An unnecessary, irreversible medical operation was performed on you without your consent, but since you are not bothered by it - good for you.
Babies and children don't have sex. If you want to take this extreme HIV reduction procedure as an adult you're free to do so. Or you can use a condom.
Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you a persons who is refusing to admit.
Thanks for demonstrating my point so effectively.
What? They're not bothered by it how the fuck is that refusing to admit anything? Does that mean if two people get jumped scared in a dark room and one for the rest of their life needs a light on in their room and the other doesn't that they are secretly traumatized? No it doesn't.
Also circumcision happens at birth most of the time so many people (myself included) don't remember it. It should absolutely be illegal but as the other person said don't tell someone what traumas they faced and how they should be effected.
You're a clown
Just because you don't remember it, doesn't mean it doesn't effect you. Aside from the obvious physical effects, there are studies that suggest that neonatal stressors and pain (such as say amputating part of the baby's genitals) can have long reaching psychological effects. For example:
https://www.scirp.org/journal/paperinformation?paperid=55727
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7702013/
"She doesn't remember being raped, so it's ok'.
Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you the problem with the anti-circumcision movement.
There are good arguments to be had for banning circumcision. Refusing to recognize my autonomy, and insisting you know the "secret trauma of strangers" better than they do is not one of them. It makes you sound like an asshole who doesn't know what they are talking about and will cause people to think the whole movement is the same way.
For those arguing to ban circumcision: you need to purge assholes like this from your numbers. They are only doing harm and not helping your cause.
Glad that, as an infant, you exercised your own autonomy, when your parents decided to circumcise you.
If you did exercise your own autonomy as an adult, then fine. That's not what we're talking about.
Your autonomy argument doesn't work when you refuse to recognize my statements that I am not bothered by the fact that it happened to me. It makes you a blatant hypocrite when you say you are concerned about the autonomy of children but ignore my autonomy as an adult.
Children do in fact need someone to speak for them. When you insist on speaking for me when I am fully capable of speaking for myself and telling you not to, then I'm going to tell you to fuck off and won't be very receptive to anything else you have to say.
I have a neutral stance on circumcision. Do what you please. I just wish people like you could try to prove a point without using "mutilation" over and over to make it sound worse than it actually is. It puts an agenda on your point and biases it. There's nothing mutilated about it. It's just altered.
If you consider this to be mutilation then that would also mean you think any gender affirming surgery is also mutilation. And one could much easier argue that converting a penis to a vagina is far more mutilating than just removing some extra skin from a penis.
So if you're trying to convince people to stop circumcision, stop using overly dramatic words and just explain why it's not necessary. Otherwise I'll just roll my eyes at people like you.
No one gets gender reassignment surgery until they can concentyi it as an adult.
False equivalence.