My partner is a lib, but mostly apolitical.

The reality is, even among socialists there is way more diversity of thought out there IRL than there is on this website. Not a criticism of this website, but if you’re waiting for someone who ticks off a list of correct takes, you might be alone for a loooong time.

Even along other vectors like religion or how to raise kids, couples often have some differing values. Of course you’ll be miserable with some chud, but that’s likely a case where both values and specific beliefs are radically out of alignment. I would say you should focus more on actual values like compassion for humanity, willingness to question the status quo, etc.

Frankly, I think focusing on correct beliefs in a leftist partner is a mistake. Communism isn’t about just having the right beliefs, it’s about action and changing the world. I think if you have a partner who has a lot of the same values as you and is cool with you getting out there and organizing (rarer than you think), then you’re golden. Also if you plan on having kids, should be non-negotiable that you try and impart your values on them.

But ngl, having a partner who doesn’t share your same beliefs can be rough sometimes. I’m actually glad we don’t have a relationships comm because I would be venting there more than I should. But relationships are hard no matter what, so idk.