So, we need a new internet community, with barriers against "normies", so that only people with tech knowledge or friends of such can get in? Pretty much sounds like we're already here. A few years ago I would've said "try the dark web" but TOR browser's pretty much made that easy. Plus bitcoin's way too volatile to spend now, and the eth rates are ridiculous. But, if you ask for shady, you get shady.

Nowadays, I recommend decentralized networks and self-hosting wherever possible. I personally can't do it due to my living conditions, but as soon as I can break free of this place I will absolutely have the best home setup I can get at a reasonable price, and I'll donate my excess compute time to BOINC.