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To be frank, if you need to send someone a literal manual to understand your pronouns, you are not being a reasonable person. I'm sorry, but there's a point when you're just being rude to those around you. Figure out a reasonable and succinct way of representing your identity. Someone shouldn't insult you for having a gender so complex it requires a manual to understand it. But also, you can't place such an absurd burden on the people around you. Your right to waive your fist in the air stops where my right not to be hit in the face exists. I'm willing to respect people's pronouns, but in turn you need to respect other's time and have a realistic expectation of what people can manage. If you need to send someone a manual to understand your pronoun situation, you can't actually expect people to respect that. You're just making unreasonable and selfish demands of everyone around you.

Is this what you're complaining about, that people aren't willing to read a god-damn manual for your pronouns?

And no, this is nothing like asking cis people to respect the pronouns of trans people like he, she, they, etc. In these cases trans people are simply asking cis people to use a different pronoun than they otherwise would to describe a trans person. It's a case of, "hey, can you move me from this category of pronouns you use to this other category you use? I don't think this is unreasonable." What you're asking is, "hey, I need you to learn and master an entirely new and unique system of pronoun management. I think this is reasonable, and I also expect you to potentially do this for hundreds of other people you might meet. You'll need to learn hundreds of different pronoun systems and read hundreds of different pronoun manuals, otherwise you're a bigot."

For the love of all that is good and holy, this is ridiculous. Imagine trying to navigate pronouns rules this complex for hundreds of different people. Because that is effectively what you're asking. If you can have pronoun rules this complex, why not everyone else? Society cannot function this way.

If you want to have pronoun rules this complex that maybe you only expect your closest IRL friends and lovers to follow, fine. But this is not a reasonable request to ask of strangers on a message board.